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Unjust Humanity
Virag
A better alternative to alimony 09 October, 2008
True women empowerment is financial freedom with dignity, which alimony does not provide. If alimony is replaced by loan, it will act as a true step towards women empowerment without men entrapment. Read for an alternative.
THE MEANING of true women empowerment in marriages as advocated by feminists is not giving her alimony. The provision of alimony does not actually empower her. Empowerment is the first step towards liberation and the mandate of liberation is financial freedom with dignity. And here comes the million dollar question, “Does alimony guarantee financial freedom with dignity?” Before answering these questions, a look into the pitfalls of the alimony system is warranted as entailed below:
  • Alimony makes woman dependent on man and the system for sustenance provision.
  • As alimony is tax-free, it pinches the man that his hard earned money is going as a tax free sop whereas he does not get the benefit out of it.
  • Tax-free alimony increases the greed of the woman and she misuses the machinery meant to protect her to raise the bar of alimony and therein sets the foundation of ’legal terrorism’.
  • One time alimony can never act as lifetime sustenance option.
  • Degrades, denigrates and demeans the social position of women.
  • Act as a tempting and motivating factor towards breaking marriages.

Above pitfalls demarcate the fact that ’alimony does not guarantee financial freedom with dignity’. Keeping in mind the above arguments, if alimony is replaced by loan with the following features, it will act as a true step towards women empowerment without men entrapment. There should be alimony only where,

a) Social handicap like some communities do not allow women to work.

b) Low relative education.

c) Long break in career due to matrimony.

d) Unemployable due to proper qualification but without adequate training.

e) Physical handicap.

f) Mental handicap.

g) Onerous or special responsibilities like one or two years after child birth.

While alimony is warranted only for situations under conditions (a) and (f) above viz social handicap and mental handicap, for other cases, alimony can actually act as a deterrent to true empowerment ie financial freedom with dignity if awarded in other categories. This is where the concept of loan chips come in. Instead of giving the wife alimony, give her loan from the husband, which is repayable at three per cent annual interest.

The wife can use this loan to empower herself either by using that loan to start a small time business or to get some training to get a job or to ensure some other financial instrument like a mutual fund investment and upon earning can repay the loan back. The best advantage of this system is that it acts as a win-win situation for both the husband and the wife.

The husband knows that it is a loan that is repayable and does not feel the pinch in providing financial assistance to his estranged wife. Also, the wife feels empowered as now she is getting an opportunity to be on her own without being a burden. This will hasten the lengthy divorces and the courts will also be less burdened leading to an improvement in the social justice system.

And it will not be in out of place to mention here that when there is an alternative being suggested to women empowerment, it also needs to be reminded to the fathers of daughters to empower them in a reasonably sufficient manner to be on their own and when they fail to do so it becomes their moral responsibility to share the empowerment in case the marriage falls apart and it will be appropriate in cases (b) and (d) to put the onus of the said loan on a 50-50 basis between the father and the husband of the woman.

About The Author
Virag R Dhulia, a software professional, has been a prominent men's rights activist. He has been engaged in creating awareness about the abuse of men and their families through anti-male and gender biased laws like Section 498A, Domestic Violence Act etc. He has been instrumental in networking with fellow men's rights activist both across India and abroad and has played key roles in organizing events to create awareness about abuse of men by the society.
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COMMENTS (7)
.True very true. But court sees man as an animal who knows only to rape.
.True very true. But court sees man as an animal who knows only to rape.
.True very true. But court sees man as an animal who knows only to rape.
.Hey Viru, Here are couple of issues that still remain unadressed: 1. Alimony can be a two way process, even woman can pay alimony to a man. 2. I dont know how children support(supposing they go to the women) will be factored in to the above formula. 3. how to factor dependants of people(men or women having dependant parents.) so there would some more things to factor in. I think the proposal for letting the government take care of it would fit in because then both the genders are paying for alimony from their pays and hence equal rights and empowerement as demanded by women socities.. :) wat say?
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Yes your views are commendable and this is an open debate
.It is the responsibility of the goverment to provide food,cloth, shelter and education to all and if goverment is not doing this then It is goverment to provide maintenance and alimony to women. Goverment can't run out of its responsibility by shifting burden on the husband or live in partners. CONGRESS KO BHAGAO.............they have arrested 1,15,645 women without investigation in last 4 years on the name of women empowerment. Ram Balak Sharma
.Dear virag instead of giving alimoney to wife . husbands can deposite the money in government trazary for the help to government , and government should open , job oriented courses to all our wifes. so that government should get credit and we also. but it should be short term. say 3 year we will deposite the money /pay to government then it is government resposibility how they teach wife to earn the money from job oriented courses.
.Very very true.
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