Affairs at workplaces are worth avoiding

Love is a selfless feeling which knows only giving rather than receiving and it happens on its own. Whereas, affairs have selfishness attached to them and workplace affairs are short term and most should be avoided.

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Sun, Mar 08, 2009 16:54:56 IST

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THE ONLY difference between love and affair is that affairs have selfishness attached to them and love happens on its own with no selfishness attached to it and has only two people in relation with no terms and conditions in it. Here a working lady narrates her affair with a co-worker....

I do not know whether its right or wrong to land up in a relationship at workplaces? I had been working in a business process outsourcing (BPO) since two years. I had always heard from people about all such things until one day I realised that I had also been doing the same thing after a few months from the date of my joining. My co-worker use to sit beside my workplace and this work station is our permanent place; so, whenever we had a free time we used to chat. He would always tell me about his family and friends and sometimes regarding the clients on the other end of the call. Through his talks it seemed as if he was much concerned about me. Slowly and gradually I got attracted to him. Even though knowing the fact that he was committed and me too, we still got stuck in an affair.

Our shift timings were same and so the break timings and hence, we always went for the break together. Finally, we expressed our love for each other one day. I do not know whether it was the need of the hour or our sheer work pressure, which made us close because we were in the same department. And thus, we could easily figure out each others' problems and as most of the time we stayed together and our interests were also common. We are now no more friends as our affair was clearly visible to all other co-workers in the office. Since we enjoyed each others' company we became emotionally attached and we even started meeting each other on our off days and non working hours. He was soon about to get engaged with his girlfriend. So, finally it was the time to depart from each other. He was very practical and I was emotional. He hardly felt sad for me and for me, it was a bit disheartening. Once he resigned he got placed at a better position. It was me who had to face all the rumours and gossips. But after a few days everything went well.

What I think is that people land up in affairs at workplaces as they remain with each other for a long time, once people become familiar with each other, their closeness increases and affairs get started. May be, people in relationships enjoy this, but it is a major concern for employers as according to them it affects their work output or may be, sometimes employees can end up doing wrong things. I have left that BPO now, but at my new company I remain reserved and professional. I would certainly suggest people that these affairs are short termed and most probably should be avoided. If it ever happens, the best way is to stay away from people who love gossiping and remain committed towards your work and do not let other thoughts occupy your brain. Love is anyways better than an affair to live and let live!

Hope others will learn something from this story. These experiences are lessons in life.

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	very nice article...most of us face this..we cant really help ..it is in human nature,
	aks \| 27 June 2009 Reply to Comment \| New Comment \| Report Abuse

	Please clarify me between these three : Love , Affair , and Love Affair .
	Santokh Singh Saggu \| 20 March 2009 Reply to Comment \| New Comment \| Report Abuse

	Love affairs are a short cut to success for women . Its a great success mantra . Can you explain buddy what is the difference between Love and Affair . Oxford dictionary says : Affair means : business , concern. You guys all confusing me ? What does it mean when we say "Love Affair" .
	Santokh Singh Saggu \| 20 March 2009 Reply to Comment \| New Comment \| Report Abuse