Can you imagine an entire day without having to scold your child? If you have a child under the age of 10, chances are that you may be scolding him/her every day and not realizing it. But do you realize the psychological effect of scolding on your little one?!
There are kids who would be affected even more by your scolding. Some withdraw into their shell preferring to not interact with adults or parents who scold, rebuke or tell them off. Some develop a belief that they are not welcomed in the home and in the family they have. And some think they are to blame for the constant remarks they get from their parents. A feeling of being unloved, being unwanted and being useless can be a dangerous psychological ground for depression to set in and become difficult to treatment.
So, what should you do? How do you make your child understand what is right and what is wrong? Talk to your child in words s/he understands. I am not pointing out the language you should use, but the meaning of right and wrong should be explained in terms which your child at his age can understand.
The commonest mistake parents do is telling the child, how doing a certain thing will influence his future!! A young one is NOT concerned about the future. S/he is more concerned about his friends, his schoolmates, his teacher and what they will ‘know’ about him.
A child is happy when you give an ice-cream and ‘afraid’ when the ice-cream or chocolate that is in the refrigerator is in danger of vanishing!
Please remember scolding should not scald or scar your child!
(About the Author: Dr. Maneesh Gupta has 14 years of experience as a Psychiatrist, including six years in England, N. Ireland and Wales)