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Do Indian women have any responsibility in their families?
Do Indian women have any responsibility in a domestic set up? This analysis shows that Indian women do not have any responsibility whatsoever in a family. If some women take up responsibility that is their wish. No husband can force a woman take up any responsibility in a family. So it turns out to be she does not have any responsibility in her family.

So dear readers, did you start jumping simply reading the title? Not unexpected but I will request you to read this before you form your opinion on this matter.

In a recent debate when I said this obviously everyone around went against me as they considered this as chauvinistic view and I asked them to tell me one responsibility that Indian women have in their families.

First reply was, women take care of the entire household work. They cook, wash utensils, keep the house clean etc. Well I said, what if a woman denies doing that? Everyone was sticking to the point that women take up these responsibilities even without asking them to do so, but no one had any answer to my question what if a woman denies doing the household work.

Will it be considered as domestic violence against the husband? Will the husband get monthly maintenance from his wife who does not want to take responsibilities? Answers to both the questions are big ‘No’. Because, a men in India can't even file a case of domestic violence (DV) against his wife or any other woman he lives with. Rather asking for a woman to contribute in domestic work may be as domestic violence against the woman and the husband may be thrown out of his own house under the right to residence clause in our DV Act.

Then I asked another question to the debaters. If doing household work is considered as responsibility of a woman then husband should not be responsible for keeping a maid for any of the household works e.g. cooking, cleaning utensils etc. In reality in how many households in India have you seen domestic helps? How many of them are paid by women in the household? You will overwhelmingly agree that in most of the cases the maid's expenses are paid by the husband and not by the wife. So it turns out to be the husband’s responsibility and not the wife's responsibility to do household work.

So the first argument that Indian women have responsibility of any household work is actually a myth and not true. If any woman is assuming this responsibility it is her wish. Tomorrow if she stops doing the same, the husband can not do anything but will still have to maintain that wife.

Second argument given to me was, women nurture children, take care of their education etc. I asked the same question, what if she denies doing the same from tomorrow? Will this be considered as cruelty? Will this be domestic violence against the man? Will the man get maintenance from the wife? What is the remedy the husband gets? No one had any answer to that as well. Well it is in the discretion of courts to consider this as cruelty but nowhere in family laws it is mentioned as cruelty by wife.

On raising the child issue, I have asked a second question. What if, the wife decides to carry someone else’s child? What if she decides not to leave the husband but continue as a parasite and raise her illicit child with the man she is married to? People said it never happens, but they still didn’t have any remedy to this issue? Someone said, ok husband will get divorce under adultery ground. But what happens in adultery cases, especially when the husband files the same?

This is what happens. Husband files divorce case under adultery, wife files a DV case and throw the husband out of his own house under ‘Right to Residence’ clause in DV Act. Husband stays in PG or rented house or hostel and keeps fighting the battle while he pays the maintenance to the adulterous wife until his charges are proven.

Even if the wife works and earns money husband is asked to pay maintenance to both the wife and the illicit child. This is because any complaint against a woman challenging the chastity of the woman is considered the biggest cruelty by Indian legal system and if the husband goes to higher courts for a remedy courts only increase the maintenance amount as going to a higher court challenging the lower court order is considered even bigger cruelty by the husband. If the husband stops payment of maintenance even for one month, it is considered as violating court’s order and the husband can go to jail for that.

When husband files the divorce and continues to fight his legal battle by living a life of a poor while the wife enjoys all freebies given by her husband, brainwashes the child against the husband, the system consisting of police officers, women NGOs, society and lawyers pester the husband for mutual settlement with money.

So for the husband it becomes either he pays one time settlement fee to a whore (a cut of the money goes to the lawyers and system designed to rob them, too) and the child to continue his peaceful life. Many chooses this easier route of peaceful life by paying and thinking that the next girl may be the ideal girl, but in reality something else happens.

Wife files another case of 498a to send the entire husband’s family to jail. Recently rape, molestation, goonda act and several other cases are also gaining ground. So if the husband do not agree to pay up in the initial negotiation phase and succumb to the legal terrorism racket he is threatened to be sent to jail to extort the money.

If he still fights, he may lose his job as the wife side informs his employer and many a time police goes to his office to arrest him. Now the man loses his job, reputation and literally comes to the street for mistakenly marrying a whore.

If this is not enough then the wife files another case under Hindu Marriage Act 24 for maintenance against the husband. This completes the circle as a jobless husband need to now maintain as adulterous wife, one illicit child, minimum four cases (498a, DV, Divorce and maintenance if not rape etc.) and come to a state of begging.

One of my friend argued that in all species in the world it is the female species that chooses the mating partner so adultery by women should not be considered a crime at all. If we agree to this then an adulterous wife need to be punished first, simply on husband’s complaint as it is she who has chosen a wrong partner in the beginning.

If the same reasoning is accepted then it is the woman who needs to pay maintenance to a man under any circumstances because it is the female who has chosen the wrong partner in the first place. However, it is the other way round.

Also no court can declare a child a illegitimate, so courts in India will not give DNA test order that easily and they can give this order only if it is in favour of the child. So even if a husband finds his wife having physical relations with any other person, he can not get justice unless a court in India thinks he needs justice.

Even if we consider a woman really faithful to her husband, and raise his child as may be happening in most of the families (we still do not know, without DNA test being mandatory at child birth), the any requirement of keeping an 24X7 aayaa to take care of the child (happens in many families) should also go to the wife and not to the husband. But in reality, who takes up this responsibility? It is always the husband. So it is actually the husband’s responsibility to nurture a child and not that of wife’s.

So we have seen that the argument that women have responsibility to nurture children and raising them is also false. They do not have this responsibility too.

After the two main responsibilities of the women was proved actually not their responsibility, someone said some women earn money and contribute to the family too. But again earning money and contributing to the family is not a woman’s responsibility defined anywhere in law.

It is domestic violence and may be considered as dowry for the husband. Whereas if the husband does not earn and gives money to his wife that is considered as domestic violence against the wife and husband faces the wrath of judiciary for that.

Then came the last argument. Men can enjoy physical relations with the wife. But who says a wife is legally bound to have physical relations with her legally wedded husband. She can still deny that under ‘my body my choice’...well there are some judgements that say it is cruelty by the wife and granted divorce to the husband but the husband needs to prove that through a painful legal process in court of law. And still the wife gets maintenance from the husband.

So we have seen that none of the responsibilities that we think as women’s responsibility is actually their responsibility. And with practically no responsibility defined for the married women whatsoever, they are given property share in husband’s property under Marriage Law Amendment or IRBM. How dangerous proposition is that?

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