There is a close relation between what we see most obviously in the society and what we fail to see within our four-walls. We must mend our ways by adopting a new approach to family relations, or else society would remain prey to violence.
A LARGE number of social maladies and individual anomalies found in today’s society are but the byproducts of the domestic situations prevailing in individual families. Domestic ambience these days is one of absence and neglect. Wives neglect husbands, husbands do the same with their wives, sisters annoy brothers and brothers plots against sisters, fathers hate mothers and mothers hate mothers-in-law and so goes the list of neglect and disregard.
We call them all domestic discord, and the impact of these rifts within the four walls of homes has repercussions on the social sphere by way of crimes - crimes of all types. Aggression on women and children, abuses of all types, thefts, robberies, mugging and molesting, rapes and ruthless killings, drug addiction and blackmail, adultery and fall of credibility, distrust, dishonour, disrespect and dwindling social values are but the extension of the conditions existing in our modern families.
These days, families are prone to get affected by what sociologists call domestic not-knowns. They are actually not so not known rather they are the most known that we all feign ignorant of. No daughter or son is ready to report what is happening between his or her father and mother. No wife is willing to accept the most obvious; rather she is more than willing to hypocritically claim things that are of some social significance. Children suffer their pressures silently. Wives sleep alone, husbands do the same, kids cry for care and love, grandparents demand decent behaviour from their children and the children in turn demand the same from their parents. Kids wield guns and kill teachers and fellow kids. Modern conveniences and comforts dictate terms and conditions for the new social order.
In this mess, individuals wait for opportunities: to ventilate and express the hidden and suppressed grievances of their otherwise good conscience. Teenagers go on to the extent of demolishing the very fabric of society that keeps them in line. They commit crimes that ordinary humans cannot even imagine of, they behave unpredictably in front of others, they abuse the opposite sex, fight with their parents, encourage enmity, fall prey to the temptations and flimsy fantasies shown by the media and finally cut individual figures for themselves which reflect exactly what their family ambience had imbibed in them by way of domestic not-knows.
So there is a close relation between what we see most obviously in the society and what we fail to see within our four-walls. Unless we mend our ways by adopting a new approach to family relations and domestic consideration, the society will continue to experience violence of unimaginable proportions, and life in turn will become more unpredictable and pitiable.
The so called domestic discords are capable of offering the friendliest breeding grounds for crimes, enmity, hate, lack of trust, faith, respect and regard; a society without these would become unimaginable. Sensitivity and consideration in the domestic sphere is the need of the hour. If we have it, we would not feel like assaulting tourists, molesting, abusing children, intimidating girls, mugging unsuspecting fellow beings, receiving grafts and bribes, and thus the society will come to have an entirely different outlook and life, wherein things would seem what they actually are. Peace of mind will come to prevail. Prosperity would follow. Individuals will find that life is too wonderful to be waste in such a pitiable manner.