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Don't make a baby if you can't be a father: National Urban League
Ahead of Father's Day on June 16, there is a need to pay heed to the age old slogan of National Urban League 'Don't make a baby if you can't be a father'. Being a biological father is not enough, one has to learn the right kind of skills of male parenting and strive to acquire fatherhood qualities to become a responsible father.

In psychology, fatherhood is viewed as a process and attitude of creating a social learning environment in the family and mobilizing care-giving skills by the male parent to fulfill creative urges of children; foster social sensitivities and create a value system among them. Thus, fatherhood can be seen the process of psychic reconstruction of an individual who has sired children to become a responsible and responsive caregiver.

Since most fathers do not teach themselves to transition themselves properly from the biological act to responsible care giving to their children, good fathers are difficult to find. All children are the splash works of their fathers. It is the fatherhood aspect of paternity that gives children their individual and social identities. David Gottesman has rightly said, "Fathers, like mothers, are not born. Men grow into fathers and fathering is a very important stage in their development.

National Urban League, a social group, while stressing the need for male parents to learn and strive for transitioning to fatherhood, warn irresponsible fathers saying, "Don't make a baby if you can't be a father." For learning fatherhood, a father has to become a senior co-learner with his kids by acquiring listening skills and being patient on everything that he does with and for kids.

A father's most difficult task is to teach his child right from wrong while preserving the child's self-esteem and the child's respect for you as a parent. Teaching a child right from wrong is a difficult task of a father.  During his own journey on acquiring responsible parenthood, a father has to involve his child in the process of making choices. Never force things on kids, teach them with care and affection as a supportive father.

Another quality of a good father is that he speaks with his kids and never speaks at them. As William Shakespeare has rightly said, "It is a wise father that knows his own child." According to Clarence Budington Kelland, a good father does not tell his kid how to live; he lives, and lets his kid watch him do it.

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