Empower your kids
It is high time that the kids are empowered. Empowerment is the key to emancipate our kids from the shackles of terror both domestic and academic ambience mete out at them. And this empowerment takes place at home
EMPOWERING HAS always been synonymous with women in this part of the world and empowering has had many dimensions, like emancipation, redemption, freedom, parity with counterparts elsewhere and so goes the list. But nowhere have we been able to see the real need for empowerment except when we happened to witness a kid being killed by the corporal excursion extended to her by her own teacher. And that kid has gone leaving behind a strong note on the need for empowering our kids.
We have no dearth for laws and there are enough rules in the schools, protecting children and their rights. But no one of them seemed to have come to the rescue of this child who was killed bearing bricks and burning under the sun. Enough is enough and there is going to be no discussion on the same.
However, there is a pressing need for having a consensus on children’s liberties, rights and privileges and for safeguarding the same at any cost. This is all the more important today than it was ever because in our country, children are the most used and abused, both by their parents and teachers and fellow beings. The primary reason for this is that our children are kept ignorant of their might.
These poor ones are always under the mercy of the grownups and the ones with authority and whenever their person is aggressed upon, we take up a precedent from the same and go on and on as if what has happened is of course ‘happenable’. And we will make declarations that this is the last time a schoolgirl or a boy gets punished, humiliated, deprived or killed. And we are not going to let it happen again. How many times have we had, how much of it this way?
It is likely to happen again and again. We have a rare faculty or I would say, chronic incompetence, to forget one thing till another one of the same make, with more severity, falls on us. We have never been able to set standards and benchmarks for good things. We are so complacent a lot that what we beget of us is nothing short of that: teachers, students, leaders, parents etc.
So what are we going to do next? Are our children going to be safer in our schools and under our teachers’ care? Are they going to be punished just for making happily improve on themselves or we are going to keep them as kids with much more to expect from us or the other way round? These are pestering questions being asked in the aftermath of the death of our little girl Shanno at the hands of her teacher.
We better mend our ways with our children in the following lines:
However, there is a pressing need for having a consensus on children’s liberties, rights and privileges and for safeguarding the same at any cost. This is all the more important today than it was ever because in our country, children are the most used and abused, both by their parents and teachers and fellow beings. The primary reason for this is that our children are kept ignorant of their might.
These poor ones are always under the mercy of the grownups and the ones with authority and whenever their person is aggressed upon, we take up a precedent from the same and go on and on as if what has happened is of course ‘happenable’. And we will make declarations that this is the last time a schoolgirl or a boy gets punished, humiliated, deprived or killed. And we are not going to let it happen again. How many times have we had, how much of it this way?
It is likely to happen again and again. We have a rare faculty or I would say, chronic incompetence, to forget one thing till another one of the same make, with more severity, falls on us. We have never been able to set standards and benchmarks for good things. We are so complacent a lot that what we beget of us is nothing short of that: teachers, students, leaders, parents etc.
So what are we going to do next? Are our children going to be safer in our schools and under our teachers’ care? Are they going to be punished just for making happily improve on themselves or we are going to keep them as kids with much more to expect from us or the other way round? These are pestering questions being asked in the aftermath of the death of our little girl Shanno at the hands of her teacher.
We better mend our ways with our children in the following lines:
- Any kind of authority makes children hate. So we must respect them.
- Teachers are visible know-alls, and they must know that kids perform better when they are patted with kind words.
- All kids are skilled and talented in different ways, and they have strengths and weaknesses. We must identify the fact that teaching child is like studying a child. Teachers must understand it.
- Children have conscience, and hurt child is like shattered slate, hardly anything can be written on it. We must know that it is not shatterproof, and it is not reparable either.
- Children are like shoots that break out of a seed. In its process of adjusting with new ambiences, its tender roots find every school a new soil and every rule a new environmental implication. Give them time to adjust to the milieu before we expect them to be this or that.
Many parents are under the impression that what they are unable to make in their kids, all through the formers’ life with the latter, could be made by teachers and school rules. This makes parents wary of the issues children raise when they are exposed to humiliation, punishment and sufferings. This leads many teachers to embark on punitive measures unheard of.
Our kids are a desperate lot in many ways. They have, apart from the heavy school bag that keeps them pushing downward, a greater burden of winning the respect and confidence of their parents. This is an anathema and children reel under this pressure, and they break down in between. But we do not understand it, or feign ignorant to the same. They fail to perform, they fail to be behaving well, they slip to their innocuous selves and finally they end up to be called names and shown faces at them either by teachers or by peers. This is devastating. We need to change this mindset.
The need for having a pair of attentive ears is increasing day by day as we come across cases like Shannos. We happen to take the words of kids for granted and an ignored plea is an aggravated insult, which in turn becomes a platform for the growth of negative tendencies like disobedience, non-compliance or whatever our teachers makes balloons and mountains out of. We need to listen to our kids. They are the hope, they are the health, they are the wealth and they are the very reason for the survival of teachers, parents, society, community, culture, country and civilisation.
How many of us, either parents or teachers or whatever we deem ourselves to be, have looked at our kids with the knowledge that our kids need to be respected in the same way we expect them to respect us? What is the reward our kids pay us back with when we give them what they deserve? They become much better than us? Is it not enough for us to be contended? On the other hand, what they turn themselves into when we deliberately and negligently ignore their rights and privileges? They become Shannos. We do not want any more Shannos.
Empowerment is the key to emancipate our kids from the shackles of terror both domestic and academic ambience mete out at them. And this empowerment takes place at home. If homes turn into houses (of homeless), we can expect to have many more Shannos.
“There is nothing parents cannot do to their children, whether it is good or bad.” This saying holds true here.
Let’s go to our roots. Mata, pita, guru, deivam. That is the order of things. Guru, teacher, comes third, god fourth. It is really sorry to know that it is god, the last one, who comes to the rescue of our kids in the form of death.
The hunted is much better than the hunters. So parents, please empower your kids. Respect them, and know that what you are is what they make of you.
Our kids are a desperate lot in many ways. They have, apart from the heavy school bag that keeps them pushing downward, a greater burden of winning the respect and confidence of their parents. This is an anathema and children reel under this pressure, and they break down in between. But we do not understand it, or feign ignorant to the same. They fail to perform, they fail to be behaving well, they slip to their innocuous selves and finally they end up to be called names and shown faces at them either by teachers or by peers. This is devastating. We need to change this mindset.
The need for having a pair of attentive ears is increasing day by day as we come across cases like Shannos. We happen to take the words of kids for granted and an ignored plea is an aggravated insult, which in turn becomes a platform for the growth of negative tendencies like disobedience, non-compliance or whatever our teachers makes balloons and mountains out of. We need to listen to our kids. They are the hope, they are the health, they are the wealth and they are the very reason for the survival of teachers, parents, society, community, culture, country and civilisation.
How many of us, either parents or teachers or whatever we deem ourselves to be, have looked at our kids with the knowledge that our kids need to be respected in the same way we expect them to respect us? What is the reward our kids pay us back with when we give them what they deserve? They become much better than us? Is it not enough for us to be contended? On the other hand, what they turn themselves into when we deliberately and negligently ignore their rights and privileges? They become Shannos. We do not want any more Shannos.
Empowerment is the key to emancipate our kids from the shackles of terror both domestic and academic ambience mete out at them. And this empowerment takes place at home. If homes turn into houses (of homeless), we can expect to have many more Shannos.
“There is nothing parents cannot do to their children, whether it is good or bad.” This saying holds true here.
Let’s go to our roots. Mata, pita, guru, deivam. That is the order of things. Guru, teacher, comes third, god fourth. It is really sorry to know that it is god, the last one, who comes to the rescue of our kids in the form of death.
The hunted is much better than the hunters. So parents, please empower your kids. Respect them, and know that what you are is what they make of you.
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.Encourage children speech,activities and studies. If parents discourage in front of others, this make children to feel get shy to tell or to do their talents. Most important thing to avoid television and talking. We should listen their talking, encourage their talents, and make them to do activities with their playing materials, story/rhymes books and moral stories. Nurturing is very important role for the children.
Vincent
.Children are the gift of God. Parents should encourage childrens education, activities etc. Discourage make childrens to get upset/ angry. Give freedom where ever necessary for children. Parents should avoid their entertainment with television, talking and fighting. Parents should be the role model for children.
.Children are the gift of God. Parents should encourage childrens education, activities etc. Discourage make childrens to get upset/ angry. Give freedom where ever necessary for children. Parents should avoid their entertainment with television,
.Parents can do well to ensure their children safely, smilingly & honestly
pursue three objectives in life : (1) health security (2) education
security and (3) financial security. Parents should also teach children
to avoid unnecessarily taking risks on financial matters. Parents should
encourage children to do everything which could be termed as "loving
humanity" and "serving humanity". If all these can be nurtured in
children, be rest assured, society can see big progress in all directions.
.Parents should change their old mind set and allow their
children to laugh and smile to the full within their
available means - this single judgement attitude on behalf of the
parents will
help the children to become more self confident and
adjust to any time of situation in life paving way for the better
to eable the children become worthy citizens of the society.
The bottomline is 'smile quotient' in every child should increase
manifold to make the society heading for a happier times.
thanks
the relationship quontient that exists between parents and child/ren is based more on performance of children than on parental oblication and performance. this is devastatingly dangerous. jaypee the author
.Teaching is not a Joke , it is not for everyone ! The teacher must uderstand the child psychology , and how to deal with kids in a compassionate way . Teachers lack patience and are unable to think through the mind and heart of child . Parents also develop lot of pressure on their kids . Both parents and teachers must understand that learning takes time . When the grown ups themselves are not able undestand and comprehend certain concepts , how come they expect their kids learn everything with the flash of a light !!
wisely commented Mr saggu. our teachers are not ready learn, but they want their kids to leanr much faster than they expect. thnks for the comment.
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