Friends: Toxic and non-toxic
Friendship is the cooperative and supportive relationship between people, or animals. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship that involves mutual knowledge, esteem, affection and respect. Friends will welcome each other's company.
THERE ARE two kinds of contacts that an individual normally has. One is through relationship and the other through friendship. The first kind of contact has many bindings (both household and social), especially in the Indian context, whereas the second one does not have any such bindings.
In the context of what we have said above, a few quotes, as given below, are highly relevant:
Friendship is the cooperative and supportive relationship between people, or animals. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship that involves mutual knowledge, esteem, affection and respect. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism (a selfless concern for the welfare of others). Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behaviour, such as the exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviours. Yet for some, the practical execution of friendship is little more than the trust that someone will not harm them. The traits of friendship are connoted by the tendency to desire what is best for the other, sympathy and empathy, honesty and mutual understanding and that too on a consistent basis. In this context, it is worthwhile to mention what The Christian Gospels states: it is said that that Jesus Christ declared, "Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you."(John 15:13-14). In philosophy, Aristotle is known for his discussion (in the Nicomachean Ethics) of philia, which is usually (somewhat misleadingly) translated as "friendship," and certainly includes friendship, though is a much broader concept.
In the context of what we have said above, a few quotes, as given below, are highly relevant:
A friend is one who knows us, but loves us anyway -- Fr Jerome Cummings.
Remember, the greatest gift is not found in a store nor under a tree, but in the hearts of true friends -- Cindy Lew.
Your friend is the man who knows all about you and still likes you
-- Elbert Hubbard
Who finds a faithful friend, finds a treasure -- Jewish Saying
Kushiyon Ka Zikra Jab Bhi Duniya Mein Kahin Hoga,
Har Lab Ki Har Jabbaan Per Tera Naam Likha Hoga- for a non-toxic friend by Vinod Anand ‘Nazar’.
In essence, real friendship is mutually reciprocal; there is no intermediary between the two friends. It is also believed that there is a positive correlation between real friendship and poverty in the sense that real friendship is more common in poor countries as compared to the richer nations. Even in villages and remote areas we do find a number of real friends as compared to big cities and metropolitan cities. Non-toxic friendship is also highly durable. Friends with the traits as mentioned above are known as the non-toxic friends. But it is quite often seen that such friends are rare to find. Most of the so-called friends are, in fact, do not exhibit any of these positive traits and hence, they are called toxic friends. There is a bunch of demerits of the toxic friends. These are briefly mentioned below.
Bunch of toxic friends
Leaner: those who always come to you for their own purpose and always depend on you;
Users: those who use you for their own purpose or goals;
Betrayers: those who quite often double-cross you and stab you in the back;
Promise breakers: those who initially make a promise but keep on postponing the promise and eventually break the promise;
Gossip mongers: those who always talk about others without any reason and purpose and focus just on gossip;
Self-centered: those who are concerned with their own wants and needs but not yours;
Jealous: those who always silently envy you and do not openly share your success and happiness;
Criticisers: those who are extremely critical and always find fault in everything you do;
Confidence breakers: those who disclose your confidence and talk about your weaknesses to others;
Phony/false: those who always pretend to be what they are not and talk in the air;
Regulator: those who needs to control you and the friendship.
On the basis of these demerits, when toxic friends hurt friendship harms. There a saying that ‘a friend in need is a friend indeed’. But according to my assessment this is not true quite often, hence, I regard this statement as a myth. In fact, the truth is that ‘a friend without need is a friend indeed’. In fact, when some one needs some help, even the strangers also come to give the required support and help.
In this materialistic world, it is really difficult to get a non-toxic world. One who gets such a friend, he is really lucky.
Remember, the greatest gift is not found in a store nor under a tree, but in the hearts of true friends -- Cindy Lew.
Your friend is the man who knows all about you and still likes you
-- Elbert Hubbard
Who finds a faithful friend, finds a treasure -- Jewish Saying
Kushiyon Ka Zikra Jab Bhi Duniya Mein Kahin Hoga,
Har Lab Ki Har Jabbaan Per Tera Naam Likha Hoga- for a non-toxic friend by Vinod Anand ‘Nazar’.
In essence, real friendship is mutually reciprocal; there is no intermediary between the two friends. It is also believed that there is a positive correlation between real friendship and poverty in the sense that real friendship is more common in poor countries as compared to the richer nations. Even in villages and remote areas we do find a number of real friends as compared to big cities and metropolitan cities. Non-toxic friendship is also highly durable. Friends with the traits as mentioned above are known as the non-toxic friends. But it is quite often seen that such friends are rare to find. Most of the so-called friends are, in fact, do not exhibit any of these positive traits and hence, they are called toxic friends. There is a bunch of demerits of the toxic friends. These are briefly mentioned below.
Bunch of toxic friends
Leaner: those who always come to you for their own purpose and always depend on you;
Users: those who use you for their own purpose or goals;
Betrayers: those who quite often double-cross you and stab you in the back;
Promise breakers: those who initially make a promise but keep on postponing the promise and eventually break the promise;
Gossip mongers: those who always talk about others without any reason and purpose and focus just on gossip;
Self-centered: those who are concerned with their own wants and needs but not yours;
Jealous: those who always silently envy you and do not openly share your success and happiness;
Criticisers: those who are extremely critical and always find fault in everything you do;
Confidence breakers: those who disclose your confidence and talk about your weaknesses to others;
Phony/false: those who always pretend to be what they are not and talk in the air;
Regulator: those who needs to control you and the friendship.
On the basis of these demerits, when toxic friends hurt friendship harms. There a saying that ‘a friend in need is a friend indeed’. But according to my assessment this is not true quite often, hence, I regard this statement as a myth. In fact, the truth is that ‘a friend without need is a friend indeed’. In fact, when some one needs some help, even the strangers also come to give the required support and help.
In this materialistic world, it is really difficult to get a non-toxic world. One who gets such a friend, he is really lucky.
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