Second category is the nuclear family. The morning tea, tiffin boxes, dressing the kids, putting a change of clothes in for the baby, packing the diaper bag, buttering up a slice of bread for the lady - all the way into the evening. Taking the child to the park, feeding a snack, dinner, and then finally putting the baby down for a nap. All mostly under the guidance of another adult.
And the final category is of the lonely senior citizen. The dependency in their case is almost 100%. From buying groceries, to ensuring that the important medication has been taken is dependent upon domestic help.
Are they trained enough to be a part of our life in a way where they become indispensible? Will our children grow up to be criminals because we let our children be raised by help? Probably not. Most of the domestic helps we see around us are primarily not educated at all. Some lack even basic language skills. They are domestic help not out of choice, but because of lack of any other occupation. Or the capability to acquire any other skills.
How safe then our children, our houses and our parents are with them? If we were to believe that most of them come from good values, why do we slip and fail to train our domestic help in such a way that they become reliable help. Using more money, handsome salaries to draw out skilled workers only goes a certain distance. Does that guarantee the safety of our lives?
The police verification process is a mockery in itself. Haven't we all filled up forms, the maids taken those forms to the station and returned with the "verification" process complete? How do we really know that the helpers walking around our house do not have a prior record?
The answer to all of the above is probably "Conversation". Have real conversation with your help. Find out more about them. And not bearing in mind the safety of your family, but to really know the person. Exchange your values over discussions, share meaningful thoughts with them. Try to understand their background. We will all know more about who runs our house if only we listen when they talk. As soon as they enter your home, don't dump work on them.
Spend time to train them around the house. If you cannot, spend some money to get them trained. There are trainers available for the same. However, much you want to look at it as a professional relationship, it is not simply a professional relationship.
You put your child, your parents, your house in their hands day after day. The safety of your family will be highly dependent upon their education and knowledge. So, empower them to help yourself. Work with them instead of on top of them to enrich your own life.