How to deal with an overly suspicious partner

15 September, 2012

People fall in love telling all the mushy stuff, which eventually leads to a domineering attitude that comes through jealousy. A little possessiveness is actually a good thing because it makes you feel loved and wanted. In fact, if your partner doesn't show the slightest bit of jealousy when you ogle at someone from the opposite sex, something isn't right.

SOME PARTNERS are suspicious of their partners when they are on the phone, are at work, interact with colleagues and friends of the opposite sex, and go out with friends. Though it can be fun sometimes to have a partner who is possessive, it can be frustrating if it prolongs.

Read on to know how to deal with such partners.

Tell your partner of your whereabouts: Leave a note or a message about where you’re heading. This might make you feel that your independence is being affected but that's really not the case. Well, these years you informed your mom, now it’s your partner.

Be open and honest: Partners become suspicious when you try to be secretive and discreet. Though it might not always be offensive, the message that is conveyed across might be harmful for your relationship. Hence, try to keep your life open with your partner and allow them to trust you.

Have common friends: Introduce your friends to your partner so that they know what kind of an outside life you have. Once in a while, go out with your partner with a group of your friends and make your partner comfortable with the group.

Discuss your day: Talk about the happenings at the end of the day after you reach home. That way, you and your partner will know what kind of activities you do when you both are apart. You can talk over dinner or while having a drink.

Give quality time: When partners don’t get enough attention, they tend to believe that their spouses could be having affairs or are ignoring them. Hence, spend enough time with your partner on a day-today basis. Spend time in the mornings and evenings discussing about friends, news, family and hobbies.

If you do your best for your relationship, your partner will surely let loose of you and stop being suspicious. Once you gain the trust, the pathway becomes easier and smooth.

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yuddandisivasubramanyam

Never suspect the partner to whom you love. it will cause permanent damage to self esteem. we can tolerate any emotional situation, but not concerning to integrity/honesty. it is the biggest blunder on the planet between partners to opt for separation.