Children who have a deep bonding with their mothers/parents become very independent at a young age. This bond also boosts their self-esteem. These children are also more successful in school. Bonding creates a sense of confidence and positive attitude within the child. This influences their future relationships and achievement.
Bonding develops through interaction. Breastfeeding, reading to the child or any activity where the mother spends one-on-one quality time with the child turns into a bonding experience. Horseplay, heart-to-heart talks and just listening intently to what a child has to say can create a strong bond that will last forever.
Research has found that society needs to find ways to ensure that mothers can stay home with their children. This usually, though not always, ensures high quality care and a firm bonding process. Trends of today however make it almost impossible for mothers to stay home and care for their children.
An increasing number of women are pursuing independent careers today, which leaves them with less time and energy for the kids and family. Also as the nuclear family system becomes more and more prevalent, the role of the primary care giver is taken up by day care providers rather than mothers or grandparents.
In this scenario, new and creative ways of promoting quality interaction between the mother and child have to be devised. Activities that can promote both learning and bonding are likely to be more effective.
One such activity can be gardening.
It allows parents to spend some quality time with their children
Planting a small patch outside one’s house together can indeed be an enriching experience.
Also, time is spent constructively in doing some fruitful work rather than useless activities like watching television.
Gardening is also a great way to teach environmental awareness by exploring the workings of nature.
The physical activity involved in gardening boosts a child’s fitness levels.
Building garden tools together can become a great parenting activity.
Children are natural gardeners. They're curious, like to learn by doing, and love to play in the dirt.
Gardening satisfies the curiosity levels of the child.
Gardening becomes a great way to stimulate a child’s overall development.
Gardening promotes motor skills to emotional bonding; gardening can become a huge learning opportunity.
A child's delight in the garden can be full of new and surprising experiences. Brightly colored flowers and fruits can also become interesting, teaching aids for learning colours shape and numbers.
Sharing such out-of -book learning experience deepens the bond between the mother and child since the child begins to see the mother as partner in his explorations and adventures.
Working in a garden, a mother and child can experience the satisfaction that comes from caring for something over time together. This goes a long way in instilling the values of patience and perseverance in a child. There can be nothing better to see a plant grow together with your child.
Thus, bonding with the child, especially in his/her formative years lay the groundwork for all their future relationships and general outlook towards life.