“AE DIL jara sambhlja phir muhobt krne chla h tu”, the line is from the song of a movie by Mahesh Bhatt; Murder 2 (bheege hot tere, pyaasa dil mera) giving warning to all the so called lovers seeking a potential partner and divine salvation or ultimate being to protect their hearts and themselves from cupid, because in the end it will all be pointless, but in case of love any kind of warning hardly makes any difference; love is our deepest longing. The fact is hzaron ashiqu mar chuke h aur fir bhi lakhon taiyar baithe h with all their expectations, excitement, curiosity, anxieties, fears, insecurities of ego and rejection.

On the other hand movies such as Pyaar Ka Panchnama and Luv Ka The End show that the honeymoon doesn’t lasts long and the grass is not greener on the other side either, and at least all singles should feel relieved that they don’t have to mow it and go through all the drama and emotional trauma. In the beginning its Hi Babes….then Senorita….then Angel….and last Maa @#$%&.

A close observation of our real life situations and relationship dramas can be aptly summed up by the famous quote “women are hell to live with and without," and this is equally true for guys as well so one doesn’t have to be a male chauvinistic pig. Men are from earth women are from earth so just deal with it. However, we should not lose faith in love because only love has the power to remove all kinds of anxieties, pain, tears, t-shirts, and jeans, etc..

But honestly speaking its better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all. Personally, I see it as if the other comes into my life and it should not be a need, it is a luxury. And I am all for luxury, because luxury means you can enjoy it if it is there and you don’t have to bother when it is not there. A need is a difficult phenomenon.

Only those people who are capable of being alone (self-ish) are capable of love, of sharing, without becoming dependent on the other and without becoming addicted with the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.

The point is Love isn’t always a fairy-tale. It’s hardly ever what we expect, and it’s hardly ever without pain, it makes you think and change, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. It’s like falling, you fall and it feels like forever. But in love you never know what you’ll find, but when you do, admire for what it is and don’t discard for what it isn’t.

The tragedy of love is that, everybody has loved and lost, and yet everybody has the same urge to get love; because nobody is born and brought up in any other way. So all are asking, "Give us love" and there is nobody to give, because the other person is also brought up in the same way. Rather than asking, "Give me love," start giving.