Many people regret some of the decisions that they have made in their life or in their career. CJ Ashim spoke with people from various walks of life from different age groups, and asked them about their regrets.
PUSPHA, A resident of West Bengal is quite satisfied with her life. She has a government job and lives in a joint family. But she has a major regret in her life. She says, “I rue the fact that I never got married. I do feel lonely sometimes.” She is above 55 years of age. There are many people who have some form of regret. One can try to know, as best as possible, what one wants from life, else regret can follow, leaving a bitter taste in the mouth if not anything else. Sometimes, it is circumstances that make the person take harsh decisions - the same may have been the case with Pushpa.
People also regret about how things have not shaped up according to their wishes in their professional lives. Rajendra Saluja, Vice President, Operations, IAP Pvt Ltd, has been trying to implement Enterprise Resource Package (ERP) in organisations he has worked with. But he has not been able to do so in the last 10 years or so in the manner he wants to. He says, “ERP is a complete automated data system end to end, which would provide easy access to business information.”
Piyush Jain, Secretary for the Physical Education Foundation of India
wanted to become an IAS officer, but he failed to make it. How many people in India have a similar dream, not many are able to transform that dream into reality. Jain considers his failure in becoming an IAS officer as a big regret in his life. He further says that in the IAS syllabus, there was no mention of the subject in which he had graduated, Physical Education. On similar lines of choosing a career, Prawesh Chettri who works as as Engineer in Hyderabad, says, “If I had any better option, I would have chosen something else. May be music, instead of Engineering.”
Some consider their marriages to be their biggest regret, while some may consider their career switch as something that did not go well - it depends from person to person. At the same time, if one dreams many things and wants to accomplish multiple goals, that too ambitious, regret is part and parcel of life. By the same yardstick, not having any regrets may point to lack of ambition or an aim in life - and unless one has made peace with being happy just the way it is - it can lead to regrets.
Even this CJ regrets that he never learnt the art of playing the guitar when help was at close hand, and when the CJ's brother always urged him to learn music, which he had mastered. Now, looking at people around me playing a guitar in social gatherings, one regrets even more.