Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. The Bible says a great deal about being quiet. The effect of righteousness, is quietness. The secret of strength lies in quietness; in quietness and trust is your strength. Quietness is a result—rather than a means. It indicates an attainment in life which can he reached only through certain spiritual experiences. Many people suppose that noise indicates strength; that the loud bombastic man is the strong one; that we are doing the most—when we make the most bluster and show. But this is not true. In all of life, it is the quiet forces that have the greatest effect. The sunbeams fall silently all the day—yet what immeasurable energy there is in them, and what power for blessing and good! Gravitation is a silent force, with no rattle of machinery, no noise of engines—and yet it holds all the stars and worlds in perfect orbit with its invisible chains! The dew falls silently at night when men sleep—and yet it touches every plant and leaf and flower with new life and beauty. So it is in the calm, quiet life—that the greatest strength is found. The noiseless agencies are doing the most to bless the world. There is strength in quietness. If therefore we want to be strong—we must learn to be quiet. A noisy talker is always weak.
Quietness in speech is a mark of self-mastery. It makes the very tones of the voice more gentle. It curbs boisterousness into quietness. It represses angry feelings—and softens them into the gentleness of love. It restrains resentments, teaching us to return kindness for unkindness, gentleness for rudeness, blessing for cursing, prayer for scorn and defiance. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres. We should do well to learn this lesson of quietness. It will keep us from outbursts of temper and from saying the rash and hasty words, which an hour later we are sorry for saying and which often make so much bitterness and trouble for us. It will enable us to be cheerful and patient amid all the cares and vexations of life.
Every home, with its parents and children, presents problems which only quietness can solve. Tastes differ. Individuality is often strong. There are almost sure to be self-assertive spirits, in even the smallest family, those who want their own way, who are not disposed to do even their fair share of yielding. In some homes, there are despotic spirits. In the best, there are diversities of spirit and the process of self-discipline and training, requires years before all the household can dwell together in ideal sweetness. So it often is—in the making of a home. At first the individual lives are self-assertive and there is discord in the household. It takes time and patient love—to bring all into harmony. But if the wife and mother, the real homemaker, has learned this blessed lesson of quietness; her life is the one calm, clear, true song—which never falters and which brings all the other lives, little by little, up to its own sweet key, until at last—the life of the home is indeed a song of love!
There are many illustrations of the blessing of quietness. Wherever we find it in any life, it has a wonder-working influence. It surely is a lesson worth learning—which is better than the winning of a crown! But can it be learned? Can the blustering, quick-tempered, rash-speaking man or woman—learn to be quiet and self-mastered? Yes! Moses learned it, until he became the meekest of men. John learned it, until he became the beloved disciple, lying on Jesus' bosom. It can be learned by anyone who will enter Christ's school, for He says, “Come unto Me. Take My yoke upon you and learn of Me”; and you shall find rest unto your souls." But quietness never can come through the smoothing of circumstances, so that there shall be nothing to trouble or irritate the spirit. We can’t find or make a quiet place to live in—and thus get quiet in our own soul. We can’t make the people about us so loving and sweet—that we shall never have anything to irritate or annoy us.
The quietness must be within us. Nothing but the peace of God in the heart—can give it. Yet we can have this peace—if we will simply and always do God's will—and then trust Him. A quiet heart—will give a quiet life!
In this context the following quotes are quite relevant: