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It is our ideas about being alone that make us lonely: J Krishnamurti
Humans are seen as feeling, thinking, socialising and philosophising beings. Therefore, loneliness for humans is more of personal and subjective experience in a social setting. If seen from this context, loneliness originates from loss of relationship or social isolation. If one is socially isolate, even in a crowd of people, he or she will feel lonely.

There are many causes of loneliness including social, mental, emotional, and physical or material factors. Loneliness can lead to social disconnect or emotional pain. But, if seen the other way round, feeling of loneliness can motivate you to seek social connection, forge relationships or reach out to others.

Clinical psychologist and psychiatrists see loneliness as a symptom of a psychological disorder leading to low energy levels requiring treatment.

Though loneliness is perceived in a varied way, however, for most people it is a distressing or unsatisfactory subjective experience that occurs when a person's social relationships are perceived inadequate both in terms of quantity and quality.

Since humans are also philosophising and spiritual beings, a school of thought holds that loneliness originates from one's disconnect from the non-physical inner self, therefore, we need to understand loneliness unconditionally by rising above and beyond mind.

According to philosopher J Krishnamurti, it is not important to conquer, overcome or distract oneself from loneliness, but to understand loneliness by facing it and looking at it directly.

"In relationship we use others to cover up loneliness; most of what we do is a distraction and attempt to escape. But if we are to understand something, we must give our full attention to it," he observes.

"As long as one is escaping from loneliness, there is no essential difference between the worship of God and addiction to alcohol. Socially, there may be a difference; but psychologically, the man who runs away from himself, from his own emptiness, whose escape is his search for God, is on the same level as the drunkard," he writes in one of his books and leaves us with deep philosophical though thus: "Alone is just alone. It is our ideas about being alone that make us lonely."

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