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Jiah Khan's suicide: Lessons we should learn
Despite all the evidence that pointed at her wrong pursuit, actor Jiah Khan apparently chose to ignore and move ahead with her dreams of a happy ending to a relationship, which according to her 'letters' was dotted with deceit, cheating and abuse from her 'womaniser' boyfriend Suraj Pancholi.

Unfortunately, what she ultimately managed to achieve was an anti-climax which left not only her family, but also her fans and the whole film industry shocked and sobbing. Her case of using suicide to get the ultimate release, however, isn’t an exception.

Why do people choose the wrong person and stay in an abusive relationship, Dr Maneesh Gupta, Consultant Psychiatrist, says, “No one initially knows that the person is not right. They go into a relationship with the notion that the person is right for them. Only when they are emotionally engaged in the relationship, do they realize that the person is not right. In Jiah Khan's case, I feel that is what happened that she could not disengage herself from Pancholi.”

Latest reports also point out that Suraj Pancholi was abusive, who would punch and insult her in front of his friends. There are many examples around us where people in abusive relationship do not walk out of their personal hell.

Dr. Gupta explains that partly it is because of the emotional investment and partly because everyone doesn't have the confidence or general courage to lead life on their own terms. Sometimes, it so happens that the duration of the relationship is so long that they feel obliged to stay or the intensity of their emotions does not allow them to just leave.

After Jiah Khan committed suicide, many tabloids blamed the celebrity lifestyle, calling it the main villain. “It is true that they are not ordinary people and that they lead a highly stressful life but Jiah Khan did not have the required support system. Now these cases are spilling over and ordinary people are also feeling the heat,” says Prof. Rajesh Gill, professor of Sociology at the University of Punjab.

Following Jiah Khan, a number of suicide cases came to the fore and one among them was a girl who committed suicide because she was not given a particular phone. In view of these examples, we as parents, friends and relatives cannot just shirk away saying that suicide is a personal problem and the person must deal with it.

“Parents and friends must provide a non judgmental environment to the afflicted person. There are times when a friend can see that a certain person is not right for their friend, yet they do not say anything due to their relationship but a good advice is always required. The first time the person might not take the advice but then it is the responsibility of the parents to advise, and not go with the flow,” cautions Dr Gupta.

He also said that genetic make-up of a person, support from friends, age, depression and alcohol are some of the basic reasons why some people are prone to suicide. While these are just words for the family of Jiah Khan, for people who know anyone who is depressive or going through a rough patch, they should talk to these people as much as they can.

For people reading this article and somewhere feeling that they are not feeling right for a long time now, not reacting in the usual manner, my suggestion would be ‘seek help’. A counsellor, a psychiatric consultant, friend or a parent is always there to help anyone in need. Most importantly choose life over death as no one is more important than life.

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