I mean what we believe as love at the age of 20's on seeing an opposite sex is based on a hormonal rush. During school and college days, the assumption of being in love was due to a basic urge to find the right partner for our life. By nature, the guy gets attracted to a beautiful girl and the girl gets attracted to a male who tries to be nice to the girl and always behind her. Once our love gets reciprocated with those three words, the search for life partner ends. Although, exceptions are there wherein people juggle between three to four boyfriends/girlfriends.

I bet we don't understand the meaning of true love at this stage as our hormone levels are at an all-time high. So, why does everyone want to say that their love is pure or divine? It is just the society which made us to react that way. We can’t be like the animals in the zoo (all animals are either extinct or in the zoo). We know that no two persons are the same. Yet, pretentiously we say that we have the same wavelength or similar interests and all that stuff to support the fact that we are in deep love. I feel that this love is just between testosterone and estrogen. But love is beyond this.

Interestingly, there is love everywhere. Human mind is so small that it can sense it rarely at the right time and right place. In a male- female relationship there is abundant love because they complement each other. There is a beautiful Chinese philosophy called ‘yin-yang’ supporting this. It says that the balance is struck in this world just because two opposite things always exist- like the good and bad, happy and sad, light and dark, etc. Because of this complementary nature, a man and a lady unite to create a well balanced family. (Now-a-days even this fact is greatly challenged with gays and lesbians having a happy family).

So when does this love beyond lust come in? I personally believe that there is room for true love only after marriage when all problems of life and family slowly pile up. To understand this concept easily, I will say an example. Assume, we are joining a new college or an office. We are on cloud nine as long as we have new things to explore and know-about. Once we feel that it is just an old place then everything becomes a source of boredom. We fail to enjoy the things we very much craved for sometime back.

People start their love life with much jubilation. But, as few decades pass-by we could find no sparks in the relation. Couples don't have the same fun throughout their love life as they don't keep up with each other's expectations. Although this is the basic tendency of a human being, it should not be the case with love. When we truly love someone there should be no worries or regrets about that person. Come what may, we should accept everything the partner is about and live for her/his betterment and happiness. This stage may be even considered as nirvana in a marriage relationship. Then the house would really become a ‘home sweet home’.

Some may say ‘love is transient’ and so it is hard to love one's partner at 60s as much as you loved her/him at 20s. I would say that is stupid. Love should be enriched with fascinating memories as the relation becomes older. We should not let doldrums and contempt to creep into the relation. Instead it should be filled with fun, adventure and enthralling moments. If one feels that love between a couple dwindles down after their 20s then s(he) needs to review his/her opinion because true love doesn't decrease with declining beauty of the wife or testosterone level of the husband. It is obviously beyond that.

I would like to conclude with a quote:

For you see, each day I love you more
Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow- Rosemonde Gerad

So, the love we share with our partner should be just like the one portrayed in this lovely quote. It should grow bigger and better everyday. After all we share a major portion of this beautiful life with the person we loved and craved for so madly in this world. Never take your partner for granted and never let your love to fall behind.