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Making divorce easier will lead to more marriage breakdowns
The Marriage Laws (Amendment Bill) 2010 introduced in the Parliament incorporated changes to make divorce easier and give women more space for their battle against male domination. While wife can contest 'irretrievable break-down plea' by husband, the opposite sex can't and also fears have been raised that amended property rights can lead to misuse of divorce by the fairer sex.

MARRIAGES ARE not made in heaven. So the Marriage Act is amended again and again.Divorce is now being made easier after the amendments in the Hindu Marriage Act. Marriage is like a freeway and divorce is an off-ramp. As long as you insist on getting off the freeway, you never complete the course God has set before you.

Adultery is a ground for divorce—but not necessarily a reason for divorce. Divorce is almost always unilateral. It’s not a democracy. One person gets to decide the fate of not only the marriage but the family. People get divorced for one reason and one reason only: One or both of them get selfish. A self-centered life will have a tendency to confuse its selfish desire with God’s will. Nevertheless, it’s a misconception to think that separation should never be an option. Over the years, we’ve seen many cases where separation was the wake-up call that an unrepentant spouse needed to break off an affair or receive help for abusive or addictive behavior. 

The Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill, 2010, was introduced in Parliament last year to incorporate changes in the redrafted  Hindu Marriage Act, 1955, and the Special Marriage Act, 1954. The changes were incorporated taking into account the suggestions made by the Parliamentary Standing Committee on Personnel, Public Grievances, Law and Justice. With more power to women, as per the amendments cleared by the Cabinet, the court can also decide how much of the property acquired during the marriage can be shared. Women can now get share in husband's property acquired during the marriage even after divorce. They will have right over marital property in the event of the divorce. Adopted children would have right on property at par with biological children.Wife can contest ‘irretrievable break-down’ plea by husband. But husbands wouldn’t be able to do so. Extent of the women’s right to marital property is left to the discretion of the court. 

Women rights groups had demanded for equal division. Legal experts suggest need for amendments in the property and land laws to ensure joint-ownership of property post-marriage. The bill, however, refrains from fixing the share of the property wives are entitled to, leaving it to the courts to decide case by case. Activists fear this might condemn the wives to an unequal legal battle with their husbands.Thus the Union Cabinet approved amendments in Hindu Marriage Act to make divorce with mutual consent more woman friendly.

Some relationships are very toxic; in other words, verbal or physical battling occurs and thus safety is a concern. The only way to stabilize the environment is to create space between the two people. Even if space is needed, they can create that space with an “in-house” separation. They  can choose to live in separate bedrooms for a while, live on separate floors if that is possible, decide to exclude certain topics of conversation without help from a trained third party, or decide not to socialize or take family trips together while they seek to heal. Couples can get very creative about honoring separate space for the purpose of individual reflection and growth. It is  seen that such separations provide enough salve to allow deep wounds to begin to heal. 

Like a bad cold in the office, divorces may be contagious. As the proportion of recently divorced co-workers increased, the chances that other married workers will subsequently seek for divorce will also increase. Men and women were 75% more likely to divorce during the study period if they worked in an office populated mainly by people of the opposite sex and of the same age. And the more single people working in an office, the higher the divorce rate. The antidote to catching a divorce at the office is to have the spouse working with the husband.

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