Parents and children enjoy world's closest relationship, I doubt
People say parents and children enjoy the world's closest relationship. Parents stand besides us in any situation but do we really feel that close to them as they feel? If true, why are parents the last ones to know about the highs and lows in our life?
TODAY I happened to sit next to a boy in the public transport carrier on my way to office at around 8am; a look at his innocent face, it seemed he must have been around 11-years-old. He was so engrossed in a piece of paper that he least cared about people sitting around. Getting curious, I kept stealing glances at the paper to check what exactly it was.
Every now and then he would wipe off the sweat from his forehead, gulp down the saliva and kept his fingers. Everyone looked at him in surprise and whoever observed him got curious to know as to what was wrong with the boy. What is the matter with him? I asked myself. Unable to resist the curiosity, I peeped into piece of paper, without his knowledge. “Get signature and bring your parents tomorrow”, some teacher had left a bold mark in red ink on his answer sheet. And when I happened to scan the paper, there was no signature.
I remembered my school days, as the same things would happen those days as well. The story of a child scoring less in tests and then the teacher was all set to see his parents and the signature. At that point of time, as a child we would run away from our parents, think of all the possible solutions to make our teacher happy without the signature of our parents. The funny it seems now, we would even pray that teacher falls ill and in the worst case, meets with an accident so that she can take leave and allow us to rest in peace for some time. We would look for friends who can help us out with a forged signature and finally when nothing seems helping, we ourselves were the last option for the forgery.
Why is that we are so afraid of our parents. They say in this whole world, parents are the one closest to us. They understand us, take proper care, and even if the whole world ditches they will always stand by our side. Even our siblings leave our hand at some point but parents never leave their child. This is true, but as a child are we really closest to our parents? Whenever we think of taking any major decisions, we think about what our parents will think about it, how it affects them? Are we really that closer to them?
Well...they are closer to us but we, as children keep them farthest in this world. Have you ever wondered they are the last ones who get to know about any bad things that happen in our life, right from the childhood? The thing that reaches their ears is the happy ending and not the series of steps (ups and down). The time we know about our marks whether high or low, first person, whom we believe could understand us are friends and especially ones who fall into the same likelihoods. What about the board exam results? Think of the name that would hit your mind when you have to deliver the bad news of the scores? Be honest, the image of parents doesn’t seem anywhere in the back of your minds.
Our first crush, first date, first girlfriend/boyfriend, any mess we land in – who gets to know about it? Who knows that we are in anxiety? Only in some exceptional cases, parents are the first ones to know about it.
The school time rumors....Aaah!!! I remember, being the youngest in the family I always feared from the school happenings that included me? Thinking why so? I had my elder brother and sister studying in the same school. Rumors and linking one another is so common, it’s a fun for other students. I always made conscious efforts for my moves and activities and made sure that my name is not involved in anyone of them. I completed the homework well on time so that my siblings do not happen to see me standing outside the class. Also the first time when my classmates started to tease me with another guy, I could feel the fear inside me. The fear of what will happen if my siblings come to know about it and finally the talks will reach to my parent’s ears. I had the fear inside me for no reason, as I also knew friends do this for fun.Even when it comes to attending campus interviews in college, we do not let them know about the names of companies jumping in, the series of interviews we have to go through. Its only when the result is positive we let them know. What happens when we fail?
We keep our parents (Family) as far as possible from all the happenings. May be their fear is too strong inside us than their love. If this is the case then have you ever wondered why we say our parents are the closest in this world? When we can’t explain them about the day-to-day happening then? Why their love seems to be fear for us? Why their care seems to be anger for us?
I felt the same fear in this child’s eyes as if he is trying to push his parents from one hand and teacher from the other and never wants the either of them to face each other. The fear of showing his low scores to his parents was clear in his eyes. The fear of how the parents would react. Somewhere I found myself in his eyes. I am 25-years-old now and still fear to let my feelings and thoughts be known to parents. The thought of what I want to do with my life, the feelings of how I want to achieve them. Everyone says, “They are our parents and will do best for us”. I don’t deny that. But am I not supposed to be free from fear to express myself. Most of us have that fear till the end and live the life of our parents throughout our life.
Somewhere we all realize that every individual is trying to play their role perfectly but being too perfect in their role is building gaps between us. The gap that is taking us apart and making us move out into the real world, the gap that makes our parents to be farthest from us.
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Maatuhra nahi Mohtarma Peeche main nahi aap pad gaye hain I don't have any problem don't worry i'll tell you both
meri maatuhra problem kya hia tum toh yaar haat dho k us bichari preet k piche hi pad gaye hokahi wo likhna hi nah chor dehahahjust kidding
Sure CJ Preet has written so wellIts her writing skills and as well as her personal experience
By not taking the credit of finding out whether its her story or not i would rather give Preet a big compliment for her writing skills She has portrayed the context very well and we feel as if its a real one happening
Yeah author's writing is awesome but CJ Raj i am sure its her story and now don't ask why i am so sure Collected information is different than sharing personal experience author is doing that
hahai will rather say its the "best compliment" an writer can get about hisher writingthat she made the reader feel the same way as she might have feltwhen she also heard or collected the information for her article
Yeah exactly that's what i am trying to say friend if they can think inside about their loved ones then why they don't have a courage to accept the fact in front of everyone I went through all these phases that's why i didn't want someother person will be going through this again I am not pin pointing anyone as u suggest in your commentYeah well off course this can be anyone's story but the author has written with so zeal and passion that it seems that's her story and i believe i am not wrong
Hey swetha i am just another reader of her articles just like you I really dont understand why to try to pin point things at her all the time This can be a story of any other girl as well as Preet is just a mediator All these questions that you are posing on her targetting her do you have answer for those You also went through the same phase what did you think at thaat time I think everybody has answers inside them but some have the courage to bring out and some buried them inside thinking about their loved ones
It will not change my life but at least it can change the life of Author as i don't want to see suffer somebody without their fault One reason for writing the article maybe CJ Preet isn't able to tell this thing to anybody and she feels comfortable in writing what she thinks Only time will tell and i am sure i will not push my children to do something against their wishIt is easy to say these things until and unless you go through this painSo my merinews friend first try to understand the deep inside pain of CJ Preet You may be the co-worker or friend of her so its better to understand the things
It will not change my life but at least it can change the life of Author as i don't want to see suffer somebody without their fault One reason for writing the article maybe CJ Preet isn't able to tell this thing to anybody and she feels comfortable in writing what she thinks Only time will tell and i am sure i will not push my children to do something against their wishIt is easy to say these things until and unless you go through this painSo my merinews friend first try to understand the deep inside pain of CJ Preet You may be the co-worker or friend of her so its better to understand the things
shweta-writingreadingcommentingposting or sharing this time of ARTICLES is not going to change your life or your parents thoughtand yes after reading any of this type of article will not give you any time of daring or strength if its already NOT there inside youSo the question that u might ask me in your next comment is "WHY WRITING THESE TYPE OF ARTICLES"ANSWER to this question is---after reading such type of thought or experience may or may not be first hand experience as that can the the answer to ur question about CJ PREET and her life cage its you to decide what type of parent you will become because and how good you will understand your child
Okay agreedbut have ever noticed why this happensWhy parents not trying to understand their child's emotions and feeling due to communication GAP bw the two I am not relating any article but you ask your friend CJ Preet What i have written isn't it true and from my personal experience i must say that your friend Preet is feeling that she is in cage or somethingShe has lot of stuff in her heart and wants to share with parents but she can't Am i right author
Hey swethaswethaswetha these are different articles its a different relationship herei think u got too engrossed into the article "spent life with my love but how can i marry a stranger" that u tend to realte every article by written by CJ Preet
If you can't tell your parents about your feelings then your not the only one but the aim of all the parents should be that their child should be happy but the EGO of parents sometimes overshadow their love and this EGO hurts them when they find that their child is not happy with their decision and that's the most painful thingThey should understand their feeling and this thing mainly comes in LOVE Marriage parents should be their friend to understand their emotions and feelingsThis EGO hurts and the irony is that last two alphabets of EGO are GO and we ppl kept this in our HEARTS So please go with your heart and loveSahel
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