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Queen of your life- Not a victim!
Few days back, I was reading a novel in which the protagonist always cribs about her marital life. She comes up with a bunch of bitter situations which everyone can easily associate to their spirits.

For a woman sometimes it never admits her to do something independently. She can't decide as per her wish.

Takes off the right of being a responsible daughter to her parents. Something she does for a good round into a mistake. The few times she doesn't realize, but people around find fault. Finally the marriage, which should be a fence for a lady turns into a prison. She feels frustrated day by day.

She feels like, to shout back at the unwanted posts. She feels like, to break open the bars and start away from the darkness. As a result the marriage ends up either in a divorce or a suicide. Imagine living in a country like this India, where people believe the married life lasts for a lifespan, sometimes unexpectedly turns to lost lifetime.

What could be the solution for this? Can things really have changed that much?

Yes! Of course it can be changed over.

"Being a woman is a terribly difficult task, since it consists principally in dealing with men" - it was a saying by Joseph Conrad.

It all depends on the way how you see and how you are going to handle a problem. As a woman, you induce to stick with a few stairs in your life style which will assist you to balance stress.

Speak out: If you bear a problem share the problem with your partner. In this you will realize whether your better half is capable in managing and helping you with your trouble. If he behaves well and honest you can hereafter share whatever troubles you in your life. If your spouse doesn't care about it - Don't imagine that your life ends there.

Carry it in another direction, there is a new challenge waiting for you. Relax and pen down your problems. Write the possible activities you can get immediately. Make certain you avoid illegal activities which might produce a "U" turn in your liveliness. For each action, list down the possible side effects and the emotional effects. Out of all side effects, select the one which will take down your stress and also causes minimal side effects. Yes. That is the answer you have to carry out.

Here you have to keep in mind that "In this world only one person can save you and that is yourself."

Avoid doing things in secret:

If the spouse is an obstacle for a particular thing a woman would do that secretly without her spouse's knowledge. Avoid it, firstly, because that would give a probability for people to blame you often and often. Make sure whatever you do is right and that don't result in losing any relationship. If it is a good thing, then why to fear go ahead and answer it without hiding it to the universe. 

Then after, no one can blame you because you have practiced it in front of them. Besides, the people around you will realize how bold you are and their tongue and brain will automatically evaluate the speech and actions towards you. As a consequence, the right thing you thought can be implemented and the reverence of being blamed would vanish away.

Don't pass up your right:

Being the full daughter of your parents is your patrimony. Never ever pay up your right at any cost. If you sense someone is doing on your direction and stops you from making out good things to your parents, you have to be straight forward and tell (whoever it may be) right on the face not to intervene. At times a reasonable and an honest "No" will bring down your tension level and help you to make things happen for good.

Lady you are the power and without you no family would move in peace. So get up with the same force with which you have descended down. Lady you are the light of the universe. A man's life is incomplete without a woman. Then don't worry, no man wants to run an incomplete life. If they sense that you are always improper, then too don't worry. 

At some period in their life, they will feel that whatever you have done is right. May be they would feel delicate to accept the truth, but they will 100% realize in their psyche. That is more than enough. Your wish is accomplished at a really low tension level.

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