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Relationships that can't be defined in words!
An astrophysicist may define the intensity or brightness of light as a function of the distance from the light source follows an inverse square relationship.

A psychologist may fail to answer with such mathematical accuracy if he / she is shot with a parallel question about the intensity of relationships at different situations.

Each tie-up is at variance with the other one.

A widowed Afghani Pathan who lived a simple and poor lifestyle with his widowed mom, and daughter, Amina, in Kabul failed to pay back money to a money-lender that he had borrowed for Amina's medical treatment. He made up his mind to migrate and secretly re-locate to Hindustan, without the knowledge of Amina. Upon arrival in Hindustan, he found that the locals actually fear him and his kind, and blame them for kidnapping young children.

A depressed Abdul was unable to get Amina out of his mind, and would spend a week without doing any business. After that he set out to sell dry fruits on the streets. It was here that he met a young girl, Mini, who lived with her mom, Rama, and her dad, a writer. Rama was overly cautious and would not permit Mini to see Abdul, while her dad permitted her to do so. Abdul saw Amina in Mini and visited her everyday, pampering her with dry fruits. On her birthday Mini missed him and went out to look for him and got lost. Rama thought that Abdul has abducted her, so did an angry crowd, who found her with him and beat him. Mini's dad apologized to Abdul when he found out the truth. But this outing had a serious repercussion on Mini and she becomes very ill…..

There was a relationship between the hero of film Bobby and his female teacher – a platonic stratosphere.

And there was a relationship between Sultan of Gazni and his slave Ayyaz. Allama Eqbal described that relationship is the following couplets:

1. “Na woh Ghaznawi men tarap rahee, na woh kham hai zulf-e-Ayyaz mein…” Those intense feelings of love no more visit Ghaznawi (the Sultan) and no more is that curve at the tress of Ayyaz.

2. “Ek hi saf men khade ho gaye Memood o Ayyaz, na koi banda raha aur na koi banda nawaz.” Stood in one row of prayer both Mehmood (Sultan – the master) and the slave Ayyaz. Disappeared the difference between the beneficiary and the benefactor.

And there was mystic co-relation between Hazrat Nizamuddin Aulia and his disciple Amir Khusro. It is said his love and respect for Hazrat Nizamuddin Aulia reached the apogee that when he heard about his death at Lakhnawati, he immediately arrived and went to his grave, where he blackened his face and rolled over in dust in utter grief, tearing his garments. He died on that Friday 29th Ziq’ad 725AH./1325.

A casual study reveals that after the first encounter, usually the relationships evolve at different stages. In real life the ‘love at first sight’ is unusual but it often happens. The decisions to move the next level is not done with scientific precision but with the intensity of emotions generated so far. At every step there is a possibility to end up abruptly or to move ahead.

The theory of healthy evaluation at every stage where the personal growth could be calibrated takes the back seat. Spiritual or sensual attraction overtakes reason and the partnership flourishes on unknown grounds. Some stages take longer than others to go through and some people take short distance at each stage.

The main factor for continuance is the curiosity to come near or the cooling of emotions. That takes to logical sentiments of interests that turn into the realm of absurdity that is called Infatuation which is the climax of the first phase. The degree of pronouncement of the uncontrolled feeling could lead to dewangi (madness), ishque (love sublime) and devotion.

Here is the story of Paul Walker who was an American actor who came to fame in movies such as Varsity Blues and became well-known for his role in The Fast and the Furious franchise. His famous quote:

“I live by 'Go big or go home.' That's with everything. It's like either commit and go for it or don't do it at all. I apply that to everything. I apply that to relationships, I apply that to like sports, I apply that to everything. That's what I live by. That's how I like it.”

—Paul Walker

Walker also showed his range as an actor in the 2006 war drama Flags of Our Fathers, directed by Clint Eastwood. He continued to take on more action movie roles in The Death and Life of Bobby Z (2007), Takers (2010) and Fast Five (2011)— the third installment of the Fast and Furious franchise. In 2012, Walker signed on to film Fast & Furious 6 (2013), keeping the series' momentum going. While not filming, Walker was active in ‘Reach Out Worldwide’, a nonprofit organization he formed in 2010 to bring aid to regions devastated by natural disasters.

Walker died in a car accident on November 30, 2013 at the age of 40. Walker was in Santa Clarita, California to attend a charity event for ‘Reach Out Worldwide’ to benefit victims of Typhoon Haiyan in the Philippines. He was reportedly in the passenger seat of a Porsche when his friend who was driving lost control, crashing the vehicle into a tree. The car was engulfed in flames and both individuals were pronounced dead at the scene of the accident.

At the time of his death, Walker had finished Brick Mansions and was working on Fast & Furious 7. Brick Mansions was released in 2014 and Fast & Furious 7 premiered in April 3, 2015 to huge box office returns. In March 2015, co-star Vin Diesel named his new baby daughter Pauline after his friend.

Mayte Michelle Rodriguez - her lover who was better known as Michelle Rodriguez, is an American actress, screenwriter and DJ. She had got her break as a troubled Boxer Girlfight (2000), which was met with critical acclaim and earned her several awards. During her career, Rodriguez has played tough, independent women in a number of successful action films, such as Blue Crush and Avatar. She was drop-out of high school and was expelled from five schools. She briefly attended business school before quitting to pursue a career in acting, with the ultimate goal of becoming a screenwriter and director. Rodriguez accumulated several awards and nominations for the role in independent circles, including Las Vegas Film Critics Sierra Awards, and many others. In early 2000, Rodriguez broke off an engagement to a Muslim boyfriend, citing opposition to religious requests he made of her.

She has admitted she felt “jealousy” after the death of Paul Walker in a candid conversation about coping with grief. The actress had worked with Walker on The Fast and Furious franchise until he was killed in 2013 when the Porsche Carrera GT he was a passenger in hit a pole in California. In an interview for the documentary The Reality of Truth, Rodriguez described her feelings about his death after apparently drinking ‘Ayahuasca,’ which is made from a plant and has psychedelic properties.

“I have to say, you know, when I lost Paul, I went through about a year of just being like an animal," she said. "Like, what could I do, physically, to just get my mind off of existentialism? Get my mind off of how transient life is and how we just come here and can just disappear at any moment. How could I get my mind off that? Summer - crazy - nuts. I did everything I could possibly do to hide from myself and I'll tell you that my Ayahuasca trip made me sad that he left me here. It wasn't a sadness that he's gone, it's more like a jealousy that he's there first.”

I’ve yet to find words to define this relationship.

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