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#SelfiewithDaughter: The message is that you have to have a daughter before taking a selfie
So now it is established that whenever PM Modi gets involved in anything, things turn patently political. Then how could the #SelfiewithDaughter have been an exception even though it might have not started out as a political move.

Let me confess honestly….When I heard Modiji in his latest "Mann Ki Baat" address few days ago, I was left a little disappointed with his insisting on the #SelfieWithDaughter campaign. Why daughters only, are sons less adorable in this country? "The mother of a son" (Motherly impulse…u know) in me was pinched and may be for a while blistered with jealousy towards those who had shared their selfie with daughters after that.

You know…as a mother I can't see my son to be less endearing than daughters. …right! Are sons not as much desirable than daughters?? What a biased campaign is it?? Literally at first instance…I was engrossed with these kinds of feelings (you may term it "a hit in the pride of being a mother of a SON"). In short…I didn't like it (mothers are mothers…u know).

However in a little while "the woman in me" super-sized the "Mother in me". Soon I realized the need, message and the impact of this movement. I already had subtle brunt of it. The above feeling was deeply rooted in the fact that "I don't have a daughter in my life to have a selfie with her to flaunt with…isn't it??

Well…after that the ugly stories of "tweets and trolls" took a center stage diluting the subtle message in a seemingly simple and mild, yet a very potent campaign that the #SelfieWith Daughter reflects.

The moment I came to my reality I realized the hard realities of those who have daughters. If a small instance can give me a feel of inferiority then what about the perennial inferiority suffered by those who have daughters? Let me share some of my personal observations over the years after becoming the mother of a son.

The moment I was declared by the doctor that I was an expecting mother; floods of blessings showered on me with a tag line "Putravati Bhava". I didn't remember even one instance where I was blessed to have a daughter. That's how we welcome the unborn child (with a fixed gender).

Let's not talk about the bizarre rituals and practices followed by my MIL and of course by my own mother, only to pray for me to be blessed with a male child.

Though my surrounding was not like doing a feticide or infanticide kind of things but let's be honest…no one welcomes a daughter for sure.

After becoming a mother of a male child, suddenly I felt a boost in my status among my peers those who had daughters. It seemed as if I did an "act of Virtue (Punya)" while my peers were seen as "done a sin" by becoming a mother of a daughter. Hmm. Bizarre!! But this is the bitter reality.

Even if some educated parents stand by their girl child, welcoming her but their numbers are still not enough and still a large part of the society is obsessed with a male child.

Though girls are proving themselves equal …and in some cases even much better than their male counterparts but we (habituated with that attitudinal wall) appreciate girls only when they "do something good" while we appreciate boys just for being boys…isn't it the actuality??

Misogyny and patriarchy is acutely entrenched in our society. Boys are assets and girls are liability…is still widespread thought.That's the reason why we are talking about female feticide or infanticide. And I don't see a revolutionary change in this psychosomatic state in near future also.

However although in a snail's pace but things are changing. But it needs strong campaigns to accelerate the change and spread awareness and consciousness to appreciate a girl child at a level where the actions of activists and strong laws cannot reach.

The trouble with every deep-rooted "societal problem" is that an "attitudinal wall" is smacked at some stage. Of course much can be achieved by that of activist action and governmental intervention. But in most cases, the dreaded question of how to 'alter mindsets' pops up, which is often a difficult domain for all those legislative actions to reach. This is where the #SelfiewithDaughter initiative shows us a way in its own humble way.

The effectiveness of "Selfie with My Daughter" campaign has to be felt psychologically because it simply strikes there only. It has the potential to work on the psyche of those who were or are (parents and doctors) involved in female feticides. It may remind those culprits and awaken their consciousness to realize the wrong that they have done and the guilt of murdering a daughter who could've brought so much joy in their or other's lives. Also it gives a template of celebrating the pride of having a daughter that could change the harsh "status- quo" in our society.

We have to decipher the inner import of a message..... PM doesn't bring changes to a Nation, people do. He has to just spread wakefulness across the country. He is doing the same by trying to appreciate the girl child and their parents. The intention behind this campaign is just to make people feel girls are assets and not liability.

#SelfiewithDaughter doesn't mean that you just take a selfie and upload it. It has a strong message. "You have to have a daughter (at all) before taking a selfie. That sends a strong message about female feticide and not having enough daughters….isn't it!!

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