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No, this article isn't meant to be a scholarly treatise but a smattering word-lock based on close observations of 'institution of marriage. Please flick up the leaf back or forward if you are a deeply religious and devout follower of any religion or an angel of high morals upon this planet of sinners ? this earth.

With full and deep realisation that marriage is the most important institution of existence, I?m ready to vouchsafe that the two parties of this natural binary ? man and woman (you can call boy and girl) remain utmost serious, fastidious, conscientious, scrupulous and attentive about picking up the life partner. However, once married, the story changes from either side and I?m not to delve into those vicissitudes in this short article.

So, let me begin with the quote of the Irish dramatist George Bernard Shaw:

?Those who talk most about the blessings of marriage and the constancy of its vows are the very people who declare that if the chain were broken and the prisoners left free to choose, the whole social fabric would fly asunder. You cannot have the argument both ways. If the prisoner is happy, why lock him in? If he is not, why pretend that he is??   

At least all the married people, if not the bachelors, know well that marriage is one of the most important institutions for any society. And every society regulates the sexual behaviour of its members. This institution is the most efficient social check post that takes the guarantee of future developments like birth of kids, traditions, values, house-hold chorus and tail-enders.

Westermarck, in the History of Human Marriage, defines marriage as ?a relation of one or more men to one? or more women which is recognised by custom or law and involves certain rights and duties both in case of the parties entering the union and in case of children born of it?.

In the Hindu traditions, marriage is regarded as sacred. The very Gods are married. When the Hindu descends from the adoration of the absolute and takes to the worship of a personal God, his God has always a consort. ?Shivalinga? symbolizes the idea of marriage while in the orthodox Hindu philosophy, marriage is a ?sanskara?. According to Prof K.M. Kapadia,?Hindu marriage is a socially approved union of man and a woman aiming at dharma, procreation, sexual pleasure and observance of certain social obligations?.

According to Islam, marriage is not only a partnership but rather a companionship. The institution of marriageis one of the most influential social organisation. It serves as a foundation for other social systems like home and family which play the vital part in shaping up the life of individuals as well as the society on the whole. The religion accords great importance to the institution of marriage. It has been considered the most delicate yet most blessed relationship among human beings. The Prophet of Islam (PBUH) said: ?No foundation has been built in Islam more loved by Allah, (The Greatest and Noblest) than marriage.?

According to Christian doctrine, this husband and wife arrangement was intended to facilitate the divine plan for human redemption. A home sanctified by marriage affords the ideal environment for the rearing of children. The conception of children is to followmarriage (Gen. 4:1; 1 Tim. 5:14), not the reverse. The Lord never intended that human beings ?breed? like beasts. Marriage also accommodates our social needs. Of course, the marriage provides the means for the gratification of sexual desire which is indeed a virtuous, God-given inclination. The Creator never intended, however, for human beings to engage in promiscuous sexual liaisons. Sexual activity outside of a legitimate marriage commitment is fornication. The Lord never intended that human beings ?breed? like beasts.

Contrary to the above edicts, for many of the new generation, there are no good partners or bad partners in marriage ? there are only partners. Actress Cameron Diaz had no plans to walk down the aisle as she feels the institution of marriage is dying.

I think we have to make our own rules. I don`t think we should live our lives in relationships based off old traditions that don`t suit our world any longer," she told Maxim magazine.

"I love men more than anything. I want all men to be happy. But guys need women who challenge them and don`t let them get away with their s**t. Women, conversely, need to not be crazy bitches who blow up when their guys tell them something that scares them," she said. Diaz is only reflecting a growing belief among many people in around the globe who are competing for the rate of divorce and umpteen single adults are choosing to live together without marrying. Today, more children than ever before, are born outside of wedlock.

And the string of latest interesting comments by the famous Hollywood actress Jennifer Lopez opens up the new vistas to muse. She is planning to wed the 4rth time now at the 48 crossing of her life. ?I?d like a big wedding and I?d like to get married in church this time.. I?ve never been married in a church. I?ve married three times, and one was nine months and one was eleven months, so I don?t really count those.? Then she gives further details about her third marriage to singer Marc Anthony. Both of them are proud to add the two human beings, ?I was married to Marc for 10 years, with the kids. I was very young the first two times I tried to get married. It seems like, in this life, you?re surrounded by people and you?re never lonely.?

But he contradicts herself. ?But it?s very lonely. So you always want somebody with you, somebody. I felt like if I got married, I felt like I would always have somebody. But that?s not how life works. That?s not how it goes. It is a bad reason to get married. Not the right one, the wrong one.?

To be honest, at this ripe age I?m a bit confused. It was difficult for me to understand the same-sex marriages. It is impossible for me to comprehend how the people gather the intellect to challenge the fundamental principles of life. These are some facts of life and there are some alternate facts of life that our next generation understands better.

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