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Should my daughter die just for falling in love?
'If I had realized what she would become I would have killed her at the instance her mother delivered her. I was not aware what kind of evil her mother was carrying in her womb,' regretted Abdel Qader, who killed her 17-year-old daughter, Rand because she had an infatuation with a British soldier in Iraq in 2008. Her dad choked her throat with his foot, uncles spat on her in disgust. Corpse was thrown in a graveyard and even the last rituals were not performed. Police congratulated Abdel Qader for what he had done.

17-year-old Sania was reportedly killed by her uncle on July 2, 2010 because she got married with a man of her own choice. She is not just one girl who has become a victim of this so-called honour killing. Many girls, not only in Pakistan but in India, Middle East and even in African countries are killed in cold blood by their parents and relatives to protect the “family honour”.

Every time I hear about such cold-blooded murders, a question comes to my mind: Does my daughter deserve this? Should she die for falling in love with a man of her choice?

Hundreds of girls have been killed in Pakistan during past year. One in every five homicides in Pakistan is so-called honour killing. It is not considered a murder. These murders are accepted and recognized as a way of protecting family honor. These self-styled preachers do brutal murders in the name of Islam, a religion which teaches peace, love and respect to humanity.

Islamic laws require the consent of both parties (bride and groom) before marriage. In matters related to marriage, a woman cannot be forced by anyone, including her father. Parents can help and advise the daughter but cannot impose or force will. There have been cases where Prophet Muhammad (Pbuh) had given the choice of continuing or invalidating certain marriages where the consent of the daughter was not taken (Ibn Hambal No.2469).

One of the reasons why Prophet Muhammad (Pbuh) was sent to earth was to evict inhumanity and injustice with women but the sad fact is that those traditions are still being followed. We live in such a terrible society where women are stabbed in bazars in front of hundreds of men, where girls are abused and ‘buried alive’.

There's a saying in Pakistan that honour is like a person's nose. If a person dishonors you, cut off his nose. It's a metaphor, but in Pakistan people actually do it. Parveen is living proof of that. Her eyes are empty sockets of unseeing flesh, and her earlobes were sliced off by her husband. She was three months pregnant when her husband cut her face because he believed she was having an affair with her brother-in-law. These things make us nothing but more primitive and inhuman for sure. Those who kill for honour are almost never punished. Only rare cases reach the court of law.

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