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social any cultural confluence on the personality of the Girl-Child in India
In spite of having women excelling in various fields on social, economic and political venues in India, there is another world and approach that suggest of discrimination everywhere and glorification of women's sufferings.

The world that makes women realize at every step of their being a second grade citizen and the approach that shuns the doors of growth as a balanced and confident person on the name of so called cultural and social duties.

Childhood is a phase that is away from all the norms and rules of the society and when a child gets all the love and affection by its parents and elderly, while the teenage is a phase that deals with the changing biological, physical, and psychological status of a child. 

There is another small yet important phase which is obtained between these two phases of growth. This phase is the real game-changer of a child's personality development process. 

The visible gender based discrimination starts creeping in a girl child's life during this phase only. A growing girl child is instilled with the behavioural manners unlike a male child of the same age.

Right from this age the restrictions, directions and instructions in terms of how to talk-what to talk-what not to talk, how to sit, how to sleep, are imposed on her on the name of Sanskaar ; while on the other hand a male child is free to behave in the way he wants to. 

A girl even in a small age is objected every now and then on the way she sits, the way she talks, eats or sleeps – "Don't sit like this, sit crossed leg. Don't laugh loudly, a girl is not supposed to do so. Don't sleep like this, cover yourself with a bed sheet.

Don't play with boys, you are a girl and not a child now. You should learn to cook now. Don't get drenched in rain, it is not right for girls. Football is not for you it is for your brother. Etc." all these do's & don't are common in most of the Indian households where a growing girl child is present, while on the other hand, whole world is open for a boy of the same age.

The psychological condition and emotional status of a child starts developing during this phase. The situation goes worse because of discrimination when the growing girl-child goes through this phase along with her brother of the same age bracket. 

The only question that haunts her is, "what is my fault if I'm a girl? What wrong did I do that I'm being imposed with so many restrictions?"

So many restrictions bring an inferiority complex and lack of self confidence which shape their personality in a negative way. 

Every time they are restricted to do one thing or the other at their own that they become so much dependent either on their fathers or brothers before marriage and on their husbands after marriage. They lose their sense of individuality.

Apart from instructions and restrictions in terms of behavioural manners, discrimination in terms of equal opportunities for education, nutrition, entertainment, career and relationships is also practiced. All these also hinder the path of personality development for a girl child in a greater way. 

A middleclass father likes to invest in his son's higher education or entrepreneurial trails but while saving money for his daughter's marriage instead of her education and career. 

The discrimination lies deep in the mindset. Even today girls are encouraged to excel in the household responsibilities more than excelling in education and career. Games and sports seem out of reach for girls in underdeveloped areas or small towns.

Protective behaviour towards girls is another issue. "Don't travel alone, take your brother along. Don't talk to strangers. Don't receive phone calls from unknown numbers. Don't mingle with boys much. You'll go to girls' school/college. 

Don't wear this, wear a salwaar kameez, put your dupatta right." All these things frustrate a girl in one way or the other. A male child is seldom taught how to behave with women or how to treat and respect the opposite gender. All this shun the doors of growing and developing a girl's personality.

Another taboo is the sexual exploitation of young girls by their own relatives. There had been many cases when they were asked to keep their mouth shut as it was bringing a bad name to the relatives in the society. In that case the poor child loses all the hopes and undergoes psychological and physical traumas.

The word "sacrifice" is the most misinterpreted one in the Indian Society in context of women that all the time they are in a confusion of what to do and what not to do, what is right and what is wrong. 

Making women do what is against the self respect of a human being and idealizing that, is termed as "Sacrifice". This is called the glorification of sufferings to keep women suffering. 

They are instilled to accept the injustice, discrimination and sufferings on the name of being an ideal Indian Woman who is an 'Idol of Sacrifice'.

We need to understand the difference between the ways of educating our girl child about what is right and wrong with providing equal opportunities, love & care to grow as a balanced human being and the ways that hinder her personality development like discrimination and unnecessary restrictions based on gender. 

The sense of equality is the key that can make a girl child develop into a confident person that would achieve the pinnacle of glory in every walk of life.    

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