It may sound rude, but interestingly majority of Indian families do not accept their daughter-in-laws fully as a member of the family, irrespective of her hard efforts to merge with the family. TV sops will give a better idea about this. There also they deal with "Parayi Ladki" tag almost all the times.
In short the integrity of Indian women is always targeted by people in our society whether it is "in laws" family (sasural) or the families they are born in (Mayaka).
Again it is a typical mentality against women in India, no matter how much they achieve for themselves and for the nation, their worth is based on WHO they marry! In the above case Sania Mirza's integrity as an Indian is questioned as she is married to a Pakistani cricketer. Pakistan no doubt is a hostile neighbor but that doesn't make Sania Mirza less Indian anyway.
How can we forget the laurels she has brought for the nation and still doing that. Isn't she an inspirational face to many Indians in general and upcoming tennis players in particular, irrespective of her gender? She is an international brand in herself and can anybody be a better choice than her for the ambassador of the newly born state?
How can someone question her national identity while ignoring her achievements for the country and that just because she is the daughter-in-law of another nation. Does marrying a Pakistani make her less Indian? Isn't it a sheer inequality against women?
To utter the duality with some more clarity let me put another example. Late Prime Minister Rajiv Gandhi was married to Mrs. Sonia Gandhi who is an Italian by origin. Did it make Rajiv Gandhi less Indian? Then why we question Sania Mirza? Just because she is a woman??
Also as a woman, I must say that Sonia Gandhi as a daughter-in-law of India was never fully accepted as an Indian by some part of the Indian society. Time and again she was taunted with her for Italian origin. Isn't it an absolute double standard that exists in our society since time immemorial?
My point is very simple. Whether Daughters or Daughters-in-law (Beti or Bahu) Indian society never feels that women are equally human and they have a sense of belongingness to their family, society and country at par with their male counterparts.
The reality is women in general whether married or not are always attached with heart and spirit with their natural families, societies and countries just as men do. In fact because of the social pressure of prevalent culture women have one advantage also.
They learn the deliverable of responsibilities at their "in-laws" place also (whether they are accepted there or not) at a very early age which makes them more reliable than a man.
The way a lady can manage
her responsibilities with both the families, societies and of course
the nations she is attached with "by birth or by marriage" there
is no point of any doubt in it. Questioning her integrity is simply a
fool's narrow mindedness!
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