As there is a deadline oriented approach to the process, the natural emotions are taking a side line. As it is an outcome based quest for expansion of the family, the process is associated with anxiety as well as relief if it is rewarded appropriately or disappointment if there is a failure to conceive.
After conception the mom-to-be experiences excessive sleepiness, followed by morning sickness, quickening or the perception of the earliest butterfly fluttering type of movement of the tiny fetus within and finally the kicking of the baby, with the associated last trimester restlessness and sleeplessness. The excessive discomfort of first trimester gets slowly transformed into the status of well-being of the second trimester that merges into the most active third trimester with the expectations of the events that would result in the birth of the baby.
In this fast paced life, antenatal checkups take place on appropriate dates; but who is available with the mother to share the joy of listening to the heart beat of the baby as demonstrated with the help of the Doppler by the Gynecologist is seldom answerable with a smile. There have been instances when the mother comes alone, attends to her work on the email while waiting for her turn, until the moment she is called in to the chamber for an examination; learns that the pregnancy is progressing well and moves out with a higher velocity to blend into the working force.
There is no harm in carrying on with the normal routine, but pregnancy is to be enjoyed every moment with the knowledge of being contributory to the growth of a life within. The couple must be able to enjoy all the associated milestones together, as the chance of having more than two pregnancies is seldom permitted. Pregnancy is a life event not only for the couple but also to the entire family. There are so many eager hearts that are waiting to receive the newborn with keenness to realize the evolution of the heir to the dynasty.
In the current era the contribution by the dads of the babies is noteworthy. The urban fathers are involved to a large extent in preparing the home for the arrival of the newborn. Some dads are taking part in the antenatal training program as well. As dads are allowed to stay with the mother during normal labor, they experience the process of childbirth not only as a co-partner but also as an onlooker. They go through the anxiety much more than the fathers of the past because more information is given to fathers of these days than in yester years. Certain organizations are open to the idea of paternity leave as well. These are welcome changes that set the stage for dads to nurture the little one while rejoicing the fatherhood.
Pregnancy is absolutely physiological. Gynecologists are just facilitators who monitor the progress with a supportive role. Pregnancy is not an illness; it is not something that is scary. Childbirth is not a painful affair especially with the recent use of epidural analgesia during the labor. Delivery is to be looked forward to as a joyous moment where the mother helps the baby to see the world at the appropriate time and not as a culmination of unburdening oneself. Thus delivery is not an endpoint of pregnancy but it is the initial moment of a real life association with the bundle of joy and love that belongs exclusively to the participating couple.