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The 'girls needs to be careful' statement again causes a furore
We have progressed in so many ways but when it comes to the core problems of Indian society like girl/boy discrimination, social discrimination and chauvinism, we are still in the medieval age. After the arrest of four people in the Guwahati case, to hear the statement that 'girls should be careful' how they dress is frustrating and irritating.

I WAS playing with my niece in the society's garden when I overheard a group of women sitting together and chatting in English, “Shameful is the word for the Guwahati case but these days women wear anything on the streets. Right from hot pants to spaghettis.” Another jeans-clad women piped in, “ya ya we cannot always blame it on the boys. After all there is a limit to everything.” At this point her own daughter, who was wearing shorts ran over to her and the topic of the discussion shifted to a much more mundane variety. The Guwahati molestation case although inspired arrests, protests and rallies as well as many tweets from eminent people about how to teach our boys but it is shattering to feel what almost every women of our country still believe, 'had she not been wearing a skirt or had she been in the comfort of her home, this would not have happen.'

The above women's words mirror the exact words of Mamata Sharma, the Chairperson of the National Commission for Women as the Indian Express quoted her saying, “After 64 years of freedom, it is not right to give blanket directions... and say don’t wear this or don’t wear that. Be comfortable, but at the same time, be careful about how you dress.... Aping the West blindly is eroding our culture and causing such crimes to happen.” However, when I asked her about the same, she completely denied the charges saying, “on one side I am fighting with the Khap Panchayat for women's right and on the other media houses are saying such things. I feel that after 64 years of freedom, it is high time that we change our mindset.”

Knowing the blundering ways of the NCW, this is nothing new as we must not forget that Sharma herself sided with boys using the word 'sexy' but the issue remains is it the dress that matters? So women who wear a sari, salwar kameez and burkha does not get eve teased or raped? Sudipta Sengupta points to an important fact, “Draupadi was wearing a saree, isn't it and we know what followed? Dowry, Female Infanticide, Caste System based killings and harrasment - all these also did not come from the west. These are a set of problems that stay within every society and needs to be taken care of by the authorities with a proper mix of law and education. India is at a juncture where it is troubled by a lot of issues - including growing population, slowing economy, a lack of strong yet stable govt., hence focus on law and order and education have not been of primary concern.” Coming from a digital background he also pointed to a cruical fact, “These days we get to see these incidences more but that doesnt necessarily mean the incidences are occuring more today - its just that our reach has increased, our visibility has increased and technology has improved a lot to facilitate the transmission of such incidence from a remote place to the whole world.”

Eminent journalist, Barkha Dutt tweeted right after the Guwahati incident, and we must all think about what she said, “Don't let the Mob Win. Dont tell your daughter she can't go out alone at night. Don't restrict the clothes she wears. Teach your sons better.” Although after the Guwahati case most of the women would say, 'punish the culprit,' but they would have this nagging thought, 'why did she venture out so late at night.' Most of us are conditioned and feels that we are losing our culture by emulating the west. However, there are some who feels that we are emulating the west but that we are not taking the good things they have to offer as was said by Wahid Bhukari, “Yes, India (in fact sub-continent) as a nation is suffering from the inferiority complex and so copying the west blindly. Though it would have good to copy the better thing but it seems only wrong things are coming this way. Guwahati incident isn't a direct fallout of copying the west but yes, overall moral values are taking a deep plunge.”

This is an ongoing debate but one thing is sure that India is not safe for women. Anyone can face any problem in the house or outside. It is high time that everyone changes their thinking - be progressive if possible, especially women as they need to de condition and think for their good.

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Ashok
The problem lies with men, not women....Girls should have the liberty to wear whatever they feel is appropriate.
Curious Bear
I can only quote Eve Ensler: MY SHORT SKIRT It is not an invitation a provocation an indication that I want it or give it or that I hook. My short skirt is not begging for it it does not want you to rip it off me or pull it down. My short skirt is not a legal reason for raping me although it has been before it will not hold up in the new court. My short skirt, believe it or not has nothing to do with you. My short skirt is about discovering the power of my lower calves about cool autumn air traveling up my inner thighs about allowing everything I see or pass or feel to live inside. My short skirt is not proof that I am stupid or undecided or a malleable little girl. My short skirt is my defiance I will not let you make me afraid My short skirt is not showing off this is who I am before you made me cover it or tone it down. Get used to it. My short skirt is happiness I can feel myself on the ground. I am here. I am hot. My short skirt is a liberation flag in the women's army I declare these streets, any streets my vagina's country. My short skirt is turquoise water with swimming colored fish a summer festival in the starry dark a bird calling a train arriving in a foreign town my short skirt is a wild spin a full breath a tango dip my short skirt is initiation appreciation excitation. But mainly my short skirt and everything under it is Mine. Mine. Mine.
Tanmoy
One question to the intelligent person who said this - are girls wearing burqa never raped? Rape or molestation or eve-teasing happens only in India?
Poonam
Give the poor girl a break guys. She has gone through the trauma of her lifetime. By highlighting and discussing these psychopath's comments we are torturing her even more. Let us pray that she comes out of the incident.
Shayantanee Dasgupta
Let us give this case a rest. Let police do their work and administration worry about how to prevent such incidences in future. Lets not discuss whats being said by stupid persons who just want to come to limelight by giving some dumb analysis of the event.
Amar Biswas
In a society like this girls end up being the worst enemy of girls - be it domestic violence or be it about a raped girl being looked down upon - women precede.
Jyoti
Its sad that the mindset of few people wont change even in 21st century. If the victim is from their family, they will not be saying such sentences.
Jim Mc. Dermott
This is a traditional mindset with Indians. When they cant catch the culprits they start blaming the victims. Strange but thats how it is in India.
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