A book that every daughter in law should read 'The Mother-in-Law - The Other Woman in Your Marriage' by author Veena Venugopal. Every bahu has a story to tell - and it?s about her Mummy Ji.
In this witty, acute and
often painfully funny book authored by Veena Venugopal and published by Penguin India follows eleven women
through their marriages and explores why the mother-in-law is the
dreaded figure she is.
Meet Deepa, whose
bikini-wearing mother-in-law won't let her even wear jeans; Carla
whose mother-in-law insists that her son keep all his stuff in his
family home although he can spend the night at his wife's; Rachna
who fell in love with her mother-in-law even before she met her
fiance only to find both her romances sour; and Lalitha who finds
that despite having had a hard-nut mother-in-law herself, she is
turning out to be an equally unlikeable Mummyji.
Full of incisive
observations and deliciously wicked storytelling, The Mother-in-Law
is a book that will make you laugh and cry and understand better the
most important relationship in a married woman's life.
Here are some startling
Pentheraphobia is the
fear of mother-in-law
In India one out of
every two women who start their careers drops out before she gets
into middle management. The career woman is a no-no in the marriage
market. Even in 2014, most mothers-in-law want for their sons, a wife
who will stay at home and cook and clean. In a recent case, the
Supreme Court had to specify that a daughter-in-law is not a
The North Indian
Mummyji is a veritable fashion police. She specifies and supervises
what the daughter-in-law is allowed to wear. No skirts, no jeans, no
t-shirts are pretty standard diktats. The South Indian mother-in-law
is more vague, she mostly makes some generic statements about "appropriate dressing".
and caste aren't big issues anymore between urban mothers-in-law
and their bahus.
What equal rights? In a
survey of men in Brazil, Croatia, Rwanda, Mexico and Chile and India,
only 16 per cent of Indian men said they considered it their
responsibility to share the household chores more or less equally. 86
per cent of Indian men said that the responsibility of changing
diapers and looking after the children were entirely their wives'.
All India Mother-in-law
protection Forum is the first ever social forum created to protect
the rights and interests of the Mother-in-law.
The saas-bahu genre of
Indian soaps is now about fourteen years old, worth Rs 200 crore and
has audience in countries as far as Serbia and Kenya.
Women who live with
their mothers ?in-law are three times as likely to have a heart
disease compared to women who don?t. (Source: a study of 91,000
women over a seven year period in Japan).
The chances of a
successful marriage increase with every yard of distance between the
married couple and the mother-in-law (Source: Italian National