Another case is where the family is passing through the toughest time of their life. The daughter has got 89% in the science stream, but could not qualify the JEE. The parents are now focusing on less preferred universities. The family is sure that she will be able to pursue B.Tech. The family is residing in a far off area and commuting to and fro for the girl will be a troublesome exercise.
In all the above cases, the child and the parents are not able to decide, as they do not have many options left. Rather, they are seemingly getting frustrated, perhaps thinking that their wards have not performed according to their capability. Also, based on my personal interaction with families, I am sure that one of the the cause of the anxiety is that they tend to compare the result of their child with the relatives, friends and other known families. This increases their concern many fold.
I had also gone through a similar challenging situation a few years back. Though my children were lucky enough to follow the course of their choice and possess masters in management, but the mission of getting a suitable job still remains a far off dream. So we must understand that nothing is certain. The destiny also plays its part. Therefore, we should not worry too much and should not expect miracles. We should stay focused on the most viable option leaving aside personal goals. Many of the parents normally intend to seek counselling for themselves and the child, but this also doesn't always work out well.
To sum up, I just intend to quote a valuable advice tendered by a friend who also happens to be a very senior officer. He had said that rest assured, there always remains a seat available for each student. Only the name or stream might be a little different than one's expectation. Also, he insisted that instead of imposing their own preferences, the parents should assess the interest of the child. Even if it does not prove to be reputed job, interest is the thing that matters.
Last but not the least, a retired professor of mine used to say that you should just give your best, hope for the best but accept the end result as god's wish. It is not important how much you earn, but you should always feel comfortable. You should value whatever you have learned and use it for becoming a good human being before becoming a successful professional.
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