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Unjust Humanity
Virag
Thinking of Laws? Review the thoughts! 15 March, 2014
More often than not, it makes me wonder about the motivation for someone like an ex-judge to make a comment asking to "review rape laws". In a recent incident, an ex-judge did the same. He asked to review the rape laws as innocent men are being trapped and jailed and the new rape law is being misused a lot.

While, I do appreciate his thoughts and not only the rape law, but all anti-male and gender biased laws like Section 498A (Dowry Law), Domestic Violence Law, Maintenance Laws, Sexual Harassment laws, etc., do call for a review, however, the deeper problem lies somewhere else.

The deeper problem lies in the mindset of the society that reeks of male hatred. And it is this same mindset that allows false cases to be filed unabated and criminalises innocent men with no punishment being given to the criminal woman who files a false case in order to extort innocent men. In fact, even after the case is proven false, the woman continues to be addressed as a “victim”. How is a liar woman victim?

Taking a woman’s verbal testimony as cogent evidence, many a men have been incarcerated mercilessly in false cases of rape, sexual harassment, dowry harassment and domestic violence. A closer scrutiny of the cases also reveals a concealed role reversal wherein the accused man is the actual victim subjected to abuse by the alleging woman who later turns the tide by falsely claiming victimhood, cooking up a concocted cock and bull story and squarely blaming the man with false charges in order to hide her own crimes.

And this script works perfectly fine because the “victim-woman-criminal-man” syndrome in the society makes such stories sellable easily. Society doesn’t believe the man and ridicules him if he shares how he has been abused. His ordeal is dismissed, invalidated, trivialized and many a times, justified.

Only focusing on law and legal reforms would not suffice, even though reforming laws can be a major step towards recognizing men’s rights. Law is a mere reflection of the social mindset. It’s like an image and cleaning the mirror is not of much use when the object itself needs cleansing.

Through this article, I put up some pertinent questions before the readers.

When we have social mindsets like,

1. It is OK to blame and punish men for relationship breakdowns.

2. Filing of false cases against men is not a social issue.

3. Men are themselves responsible for skyrocketing suicides of married men.

4. A man must be punished even if the case filed against him is false.

5. A man is an ATM Machine and has no emotions or feelings.

6. It is OK to insult, abuse, belittle, demean and criminalize men, merely because they are men.

7. It’s men’s pride for getting used and for making sacrifices.

8. A man is a bonded laborer and he must put others interest before his own.

9. Men don’t need special protection and special laws to take care of their interests in relationships and life.

10. Men shouldn’t talk about their rights.

And so and so forth; we have a plethora of such social mindsets that validate the abuse of men and also make it institutional. In such a society, it is very easy to make anti-male laws and use them against men. And merely asking for review of law should not suffice.

When we have judges, who have themselves passed judgments in favor of men, thinking that ultimately it’s the men who are at fault, less said the better about the rest of the society.

While, it is important to review the laws and the demand is more than welcome, however, it is more important to work on reforming the social mindset that views things from a gynocentric prism demeaning the significance of men’s rights.

It being a behemoth and humongous task to reform social mindset, what it requires is a collective call pivoted around reforming the educational system of India wherein young minds are poisoned with biased and stereotypical mind frames of feminism making it look like a zero sum game between men and women and make it mandatory to discriminate against men under the barb and paradoxical veil of women empowerment.

Current academia and educational system also focuses a lot on spreading hatred against men which is an unhealthy social scenario and calls for immediate change. If today’s boys aren’t rescued from the clinging clutches of academic feminism, tomorrow’s men would be in danger and their existence would be in jeopardy.

By no means, can any society or civilization undermine the importance of its men or afford to trample upon their rights in order to exercise its inherent biases and inabilities to bring about peaceful existence. At the end of the day, it’s the thoughts that transmigrate to actions and it’s the intention that transmigrates to reforms. And before we talk of actions and reforms we must refine our thoughts and work to eliminate the internal bias against men that is predominantly prevalent in all of us – both men and women.

If we do not choose to review our thoughts, we must not choose to act otherwise it would just be like a patch work without bothering to address the root cause.


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About The Author
Virag R Dhulia, a software professional, has been a prominent men's rights activist. He has been engaged in creating awareness about the abuse of men and their families through anti-male and gender biased laws like Section 498A, Domestic Violence Act etc. He has been instrumental in networking with fellow men's rights activist both across India and abroad and has played key roles in organizing events to create awareness about abuse of men by the society. A book titled, 'The Secrets of Manhood' authored by Virag has been published. This book is a collection of short articles which focus on issues and problems faced by men and how men are victims of social stereotypes.
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Men think that the world has become too feminist and men are being made the victim of this feminism so that more men commit suicide or otherwise suffer because of false cases of dowry deaths, abuse of women, sexual assault on women and rape etc. lodged on them. They particularly emphasise that dowry related laws as well as laws relating to rape and sexual assault etc. on women are not gender neutral and are specifically directed against the men. They hold mindset of both modern men and women responsible for this state of affairs. They are in fact against a society which tells big boys not to cry even if provoked to tears, defend the nation with all their might, defend the women in misery and provide sustenance and care for the family. The women on the other hand point out that sexual assault and rape on them is the order of the day and even juveniles are involved in such cases. They say that they have to put up with drunkard men or men addicted to drugs who do not support the family and in such cases, it is the woman who has to support the family. They also point out that dowry deaths and dowry related torture is still there and even women of elite class suffer from it. They say that they are nearly 50% of the population but do not have even 33% representation in elected bodies or jobs. While men these days are allowed to have their say regarding their marriage, women have hardly any say in such matters and when she wants to have her way, there are honour killings. Muslim women say that men force them to wear burqa and that too of the men's colour and choice but do not keep beard as per Sharia laws. Women blame all this on the society's mindset which is still loaded in favour of men. Meanwhile nobody looks at the gloom which transgender suffer. They are neither here nor there and are not allowed to go to schools and colleges to educate themselves. They are forced to dance and sing and live a life of beggars. Then there are draconian laws like Section 377 of IPC which is frequently used against them as most of them are gay because of their physique. It is, therefore, necessary that laws are changed and made gender neutral which do not discriminate either against men or women or even transgenders. In this connection, it may be mentioned that most of the laws are the product of British rule in India and they need to be changed. In fact, a thorough review of various laws is required to make them gender neutral including abolition of polygamy and polyandry, the former affecting the men adversely and the latter affecting the women adversely as there are lesser women to get married to in polygamous system while there are lesser men to get married to in polyandrous system. Once the laws are changed, the mindset of the people would also change and there would not be female foeticide and sexual crimes against women or crimes against men for duping them of their possessions via the present dowry laws which must be changed or crimes against transgenders for which Section 377 of IPC must be changed and prostitution is legalised. The legalisation of the prostitution would also prevent the occurrence of HIV/AIDS.
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