Taking a woman’s verbal testimony as cogent evidence, many a men have been incarcerated mercilessly in false cases of rape, sexual harassment, dowry harassment and domestic violence. A closer scrutiny of the cases also reveals a concealed role reversal wherein the accused man is the actual victim subjected to abuse by the alleging woman who later turns the tide by falsely claiming victimhood, cooking up a concocted cock and bull story and squarely blaming the man with false charges in order to hide her own crimes.
And this script works perfectly fine because the “victim-woman-criminal-man” syndrome in the society makes such stories sellable easily. Society doesn’t believe the man and ridicules him if he shares how he has been abused. His ordeal is dismissed, invalidated, trivialized and many a times, justified.
Only focusing on law and legal reforms would not suffice, even though reforming laws can be a major step towards recognizing men’s rights. Law is a mere reflection of the social mindset. It’s like an image and cleaning the mirror is not of much use when the object itself needs cleansing.
Through this article, I put up some pertinent questions before the readers.
When we have social mindsets like,
1. It is OK to blame and punish men for relationship breakdowns.
2. Filing of false cases against men is not a social issue.
3. Men are themselves responsible for skyrocketing suicides of married men.
4. A man must be punished even if the case filed against him is false.
5. A man is an ATM Machine and has no emotions or feelings.
6. It is OK to insult, abuse, belittle, demean and criminalize men, merely because they are men.
7. It’s men’s pride for getting used and for making sacrifices.
8. A man is a bonded laborer and he must put others interest before his own.
9. Men don’t need special protection and special laws to take care of their interests in relationships and life.
10. Men shouldn’t talk about their rights.
And so and so forth; we have a plethora of such social mindsets that validate the abuse of men and also make it institutional. In such a society, it is very easy to make anti-male laws and use them against men. And merely asking for review of law should not suffice.
When we have judges, who have themselves passed judgments in favor of men, thinking that ultimately it’s the men who are at fault, less said the better about the rest of the society.
While, it is important to review the laws and the demand is more than welcome, however, it is more important to work on reforming the social mindset that views things from a gynocentric prism demeaning the significance of men’s rights.
It being a behemoth and humongous task to reform social mindset, what it requires is a collective call pivoted around reforming the educational system of India wherein young minds are poisoned with biased and stereotypical mind frames of feminism making it look like a zero sum game between men and women and make it mandatory to discriminate against men under the barb and paradoxical veil of women empowerment.
Current academia and educational system also focuses a lot on spreading hatred against men which is an unhealthy social scenario and calls for immediate change. If today’s boys aren’t rescued from the clinging clutches of academic feminism, tomorrow’s men would be in danger and their existence would be in jeopardy.
By no means, can any society or civilization undermine the importance of its men or afford to trample upon their rights in order to exercise its inherent biases and inabilities to bring about peaceful existence. At the end of the day, it’s the thoughts that transmigrate to actions and it’s the intention that transmigrates to reforms. And before we talk of actions and reforms we must refine our thoughts and work to eliminate the internal bias against men that is predominantly prevalent in all of us – both men and women.
If we do not choose to review our thoughts, we must not choose to act otherwise it would just be like a patch work without bothering to address the root cause.