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Tug of love child
A Muslim boy lost during the post - Godhra riots has recently been found living with a Hindu family as their son. Now the courts face the difficult task of deciding, which set of parents should the nine year old live with in future.

TUCKED AWAY in the inner pages of a newspaper was a story, recently, that proves (if any proof was needed) that many times life is indeed stranger than fiction. This is a story with a lot of similarities with the film Parzania (based on a real life story). That film tells the heart rending story of the struggle of a Parsi couple to find their son, lost in the chaos that reigned in post-Godhra, Gujarat in 2002.

Many children were killed or separated from their families during those tragic times and this is the story of nine year old Muzaffar who was separated from his parents, Mohammed Salim Sheikh and Jaibunnisa, during the riots of 2002. They lost track of their two and half year old son as they sought refuge in late MP Ahsan Jafri’s house in February 2002.

They later filed a missing person’s report and searched as best as they could. As it turned out, that boy not only survived the insane brutality of that day but was also found by a constable of the crime branch who took him to his cousin Vikram and his wife Meena in Saraspur. This couple has since raised the boy, now named Vivek Vikram Patni, as their own son.

Apparently the boy had actually been found a year and a half ago but it was only on July 14th this year that the biological parents were informed that their lost son had been found. A subsequent DNA test confirmed the Sheikhs as the parents. They then filed for custody in a metropolitan court and the court ordered the Patnis to hand over the custody of the boy to the Sheikhs. Meena is said to have refused and thus the court had to ask the nine year old with whom he would like to live. The boy, not surprisingly, chose to live with Meena. The heart broken biological parents are now planning to move the High Court to get their son back and vow they will go to even the Supreme Court if required.

It is hard to imagine how this story that has brought so much pain to the Sheikhs, so far, can be resolved without one party or the other suffering heart ache. Apparently, the couple who has raised the boy for nearly six years now had told the police in 2002 that they would return the child if his parents were ever found. Most probably they did mean to give the boy back at that point, thinking that the parents would either be found soon or be possibly dead. But as time passed and they grew to love the boy as their own that intention became harder to act upon.

Well, six years is a long time and the child by now has become their ‘own’. It would be as painful for them now to ‘lose’ the boy as it was for Sheikh and Jaibunnisa in 2002. How can the courts now reconcile the very genuine interests of these two sets of Vivek/Muzaffar’s parents? It seems, which ever set they go with there is bound to be hurt.

Whose claim is more; the ones who gave him birth and then lost him under most traumatic circumstances or the ones who nurtured him for the last six years? As if this was not hard enough to decide, what about the boy at the centre of this triangle of ‘love’? What decision will do justice to him? Is it the right thing to do to make him go to live with the Sheikhs? What about the attachments he has formed with his adoptive parents? As far as he is concerned they are his parents and he is attached to them as any child is to his/her parent. What harm will it do to his psyche to be now taken away and made to live with a family and a culture that is alien to him? What would be the right thing to do? Should the interest of the child supersede those of his parents or vice versa?

Whichever way you look at this case, it seems headed for a lot more of legal wrangling and emotional pain. There can never be a right or easy decision in a story like this.

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.The court should give judgement in favour of the biological parents as they have all rights towards their son and there is a point that the rescuers of the child should have made an attempt to find out the boy's parents and handover him to them.The boy may have been rescued by the couples but they should have thought of the parents'.hence he must be handedover to his biological parents
.Pls gimme ur Contact Link so that i can talk to you as i have a lot of things to be discussed with you as a Journalist & as a citizen of India too.
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If You want you can send me an email on mrityudand@yahoo.com along with ur contact link and pls also delete this comment after you get my email address coz i hate spammers who spam everytime once they get someone's mail Id.
I am sorry anonymous,I can not give my contact links on a public forum like this.
.I would just like to say that the Boy should be allowed to live with both the families and follow cultures of both religions which would be an attempt for re-uniting the Hindu-Muslim power as still there are many wrong beliefs going on in some mischievious minds, if the court decide this then it would surely set an example for re-uniting everyone which is strongly required in our Country for the development of our country.
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Yes,ideally he should be able to enjoy the love of both sides but these matters are too emotionally complex.I think the two mums are best placed to to solve this tangle so that no one feels like the party that lost.
.It is mischievous to call this as a 'Muslim' child living as a 'Hindu' son. It is the case of a missing boy found in the household of a (may be kind) stranger family. Magistrate JK Patel has the FSL findings, confirming the histological parentage of Shaikhs, who have demanded the child's custody. But, in his divine wisdom ("as per my opinion and looking to the situation and interest of the kid"), he has refused, declaring, "actually the kid is under the custody of Veena Patani and she also nourishes him." EVEN IF IT IS ASSUMED that the boy might go starving in his histological parents' home along with two brothers and a sister and may not be able to continue to "recite Gayatri Mantra flawlessly", it is none of the magistrate's business to opine whether it is not in the interest of the kid. Tomorrow, if I kidnap a child and gift or sell to Patel, he cannot have any claim when the real parents are able to locate the child. In fact, he'd have to explain, why he must not by prosecuted for aiding the kidnap! If Veena is widow and has no one else in life, nobody prevents her from adoping a child THAT REALLY NEEDS foster parents. This is yet another instance of petty judiciary in India exceeding its brief and donning the role of God's messengers. That only spoils credibility of the whole system by raising suspicions about any 'deal'.
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That is exactly why I gave the bare facts and did not call him Hindu or Muslim in this piece.
.Whatever turn this story takes, the one precaution that both sets of parents will have to take is - KEEP THE TV NEWS CHANNELS OUT OF THIS. The news channels are completely irresponsible, insensitive and irrational. They will cause terrible emotional agony to all the parties concerned. The Arushi murder case in Noida is the latest example.
.An update: The father Vikram who had taken the boy in along with his wife Meena passed away sometime ago so its is just Meena and the boy now facing this traumatic struggle for custody.
.quite a thoughtful work...kudos!
.what diffrence wud mere apologies make?
.N. Modi created these problems for Muslims, he should apologies or give up his office..N. Modi is most dis honest person in India
.Come what may the verdict, the clear winner here is the love and humanity which still rests deep in our Indian society.
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