So, it is right to say all abuses that get reported originate from home. The four walls of many of our modern homes are disgustingly notorious for breeding criminals. And I dare to say parents are the real culprits because children are children and they are to be guided to realize that women and children are part of humanity, and love leading to sex, and fancy leading to “fleshy thoughts” is something that needs to be handled with homemade virtues, not with hellish instincts and inclinations.
A boy is not derided, as a girl is when both are found to be doing the similar act, which is against the order. This is very common in nuclear families.
Fathers are so masculine to ignore the premature masculinity of their peevish male children. Mothers, on the other hand, are at the mercy of the male children and the family men.
Daily chores are different for boys and girls. Routine language is one for males and another for females. Breathing space allocated for girls is so narrow that they hardly breathe in freely when boys are around.
There was a time when parents called the shots and children abided. But much water has flowed down the river of family life, and now it is children who do the job and parents are mere onlookers. Here too, what we find is a bit embarrassing dealing between male and female children. They happen to spend a lot of time on their own watching whatever is not to be watched, discussing whatever is not worth listening to and enjoying whatever is to be shunned. These include explicit body and fashion statements, fun involving the physique and pastimes purely private and passionate.
And when anything of such gets exposed inside the family, it is the females who bear the brunt. Women and children, especially female children, get assaulted, aggressed upon and advanced anywhere and everywhere, and the culprits involved in these cases are offspring of mothers who were one-time female children of some families. They grew in an atmosphere where they were kept a leg away from males, and males on the other hand had an upper hand over their counterparts. It is this upper hand that makes things worse now.
The remedy is this that nuclear families need to be cleared off this anomalous partisan attitude. The man of the family must respect the woman. Because children in the family (especially sons) watch him do it and quite obvious, imbibe the acts of their father.
No wonder, women and children in this biggest and the most tolerant democracy in the world are increasingly getting abused, molested and raped. If the newly-formed nuclear families could decide on one thing that both the partners would respect and protect each other and would impart noble family values to their children, hopefully, within two decades, we could savour a state where both the genders will be free to enjoy their rights in right measures.
Therefore, those men, who live in nuclear families, must mend their ways so as to make the world of their own children a better place to live in. Let us begin at our home.
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