What is this love all about?
Another problem is that guys always glue up high and noble models of morality and emotion on their mental message boards. Come to think of it, this appears to be a compliment of the first problem. Guys always try to be honest, fair, just and so on.
WHAT IS this idea, this product, which is thrown at us from every billboard, sung at us in every song, shown to us at every movie, eleven out of ten, drilled into us by countless Mills & Boons, Sidney Sheldons, Eric Segals… adults into blathering, cooing piles of mobile mush.
What is this criminal tendency which make guys break their piggy banks, fall out with buddies, lie to dads and brothers and flare up at moms and sisters? More importantly, the middle aged, who are at peace with their set patterns and life style, change every characteristic behavioural attitudes and exhibit the random irrationality of a child lost in transition, as if, interrupted. Most importantly why do we do it? Why is it that with every evidence and instinct to the contrary, we keep humming that one line, ‘I love you’, and turning into so much jelly at the sight of ‘that someone’?
Not that this is essentially an original question, or a singular enquiry. The same problem has plagued men since women discovered the devastating use of silence in both its uninterrupted presence and its complete absence. I think this problem has something in its very essence to do with the female conditioning.
Girls, on the other hand, are more bothered about the way things work for them. How they can apply that which is around them, for their own good, which can be physical primarily and even mental sometimes. Which isn’t always as selfish as it sounds, it is just a utilitarian way of looking at the world, it does not in the least matters to them if someone gets hurt or destroyed, in fact, they lie or feign ignorance and pops up the question of trust to push the guy concerned into guilt complex. Why do guys call them ‘dumb’ I don’t know, but I know girls love to hear that to finally take control of every mess created, with the most wrongly used English word ‘sorry’. Funny, isn’t it?
Guys, therefore, live in a world where ideas and ideals are at least as real as the objects around them. In fact, they look for the realisation of what they think and what they see in the real world. An approach, not particularly suited to the better ‘disappointments’ of living a life far more prosaic than poetic.
This horrid sub-species has held mankind ransom for ages and today actually has the nerve to say that, it is they who are ‘enslaved’. Talk about hypocrisy! Reflectively, their eloquent silence talks a lot about their polygamous want of experiencing multiple males which being dominated by a male society they can’t express and puts on a façade as if the silence is shyness. They are outright vocal when mingling with their own sex.
They posses but they don’t love. They are the actual jailors holding their prisoners as captives.
They posses but they don’t love. They are the actual jailors holding their prisoners as captives.
It absolutely does not help that guys are born emotionally simple minded, trusting, caring. When the institution of ‘marriage’ surfaced in social structures, it was auto concluded that these all-round simpletons be linked with the opposite sex with at least an age difference of five to ten years in all societies all over the world, primary reason that there be a balance in control of things, control over intelligent over-riding of emotional foreplay which is the so called weaker gender’s weapon of all times, the emotional weapon or façade.
It takes an age and a half for a guy to fall in love a couple of times before he begins to learn, to learn after he realises that he is not the only one cherished and that there can be many others, if not many at least one for sure to fill in for vacant times of physical and mental wants, a filler for time pass. Is it actually surprising that men tend to be a little cynical of women and love? They play and believe me they play the game well, because they hardly mess up, from Fanny Browns to Madame de Bovauirs.
Another problem is that guys always glue up high and noble models of morality and emotion on their mental message boards. Come to think of it, this appears to be a compliment of the first problem. Guys always try to be honest, fair, just and so on. And at the first time, things are always simple. That which needs to be done is done. Simple, angelic and totally stupid. Girls never have any such scruples.
But you have to hand them their due…they are much smarter than boys. They can lie with a doe eyed simplicity, stabbing beautifully with their actions by saying she was innocent in any wrong doing, because they are never wrong, or by questioning with poured in innocence, what was wrong in some thing which is wrong all the way.
Numerous journals of psychiatry say that males change very slowly, or adapt to changes much slower as compared to the females. Leaving a very few societies, therefore, the family is patriarchal, as they, the so-called weaker gender, can adjust to a new household (new love, new possession, new friend) very fast. As I have mentioned before, their multi partner wants are therefore natural, because, they get bored very fast of anything, which is comparatively static to their utter dynamic mental and very obvious physical wants.
Another problem is that guys always glue up high and noble models of morality and emotion on their mental message boards. Come to think of it, this appears to be a compliment of the first problem. Guys always try to be honest, fair, just and so on. And at the first time, things are always simple. That which needs to be done is done. Simple, angelic and totally stupid. Girls never have any such scruples.
But you have to hand them their due…they are much smarter than boys. They can lie with a doe eyed simplicity, stabbing beautifully with their actions by saying she was innocent in any wrong doing, because they are never wrong, or by questioning with poured in innocence, what was wrong in some thing which is wrong all the way.
Numerous journals of psychiatry say that males change very slowly, or adapt to changes much slower as compared to the females. Leaving a very few societies, therefore, the family is patriarchal, as they, the so-called weaker gender, can adjust to a new household (new love, new possession, new friend) very fast. As I have mentioned before, their multi partner wants are therefore natural, because, they get bored very fast of anything, which is comparatively static to their utter dynamic mental and very obvious physical wants.
It will be imperative here to mention that they are not the sole ones in polygamous thoughts, men are also in the overall picture but they are so callous that they always mess up, can’t play the game under ‘covers’ as women do and again here the sub species wins by their strength of silence, not like us ‘blabbermouths’ who have to talk nonsense all the time or ‘flaunt’ like fools in the company of friends to act cool. And this flaunting puts us in the arc lights, while they are playing it all in ‘darkness’, same game, we get caught and they ever not.
It does not matter in the long run though. Men show a much steeper learning graph than women do (which is, basically, horizontal). So, by the time they hit thirty or thirty five, the average man is smarter, richer and in more relationships than the average woman. There is a balance in all things.
But let us return to the original question. Why does a guy temporarily shut down all functioning parts of his brain and insist on doing the most ridiculous things?
With this we come to the most serious revelations. The war (which dunderhead could ever call it a battle) between the genders has been long, expensive (to understate the case) and to all appearances, a complete waste of resources. Yet, it has one effect which most seem to miss.
It is the surest way for most guys to find themselves.
Let me explain.
Guys look at life in a fundamentally different way from girls. They are more concerned with the working of things; with how the miracles of everyday life happen? Well, to be honest, not every guy thinks in the same line, but the causative force behind his actions is definitely the same.
It does not matter in the long run though. Men show a much steeper learning graph than women do (which is, basically, horizontal). So, by the time they hit thirty or thirty five, the average man is smarter, richer and in more relationships than the average woman. There is a balance in all things.
But let us return to the original question. Why does a guy temporarily shut down all functioning parts of his brain and insist on doing the most ridiculous things?
With this we come to the most serious revelations. The war (which dunderhead could ever call it a battle) between the genders has been long, expensive (to understate the case) and to all appearances, a complete waste of resources. Yet, it has one effect which most seem to miss.
It is the surest way for most guys to find themselves.
Let me explain.
Guys look at life in a fundamentally different way from girls. They are more concerned with the working of things; with how the miracles of everyday life happen? Well, to be honest, not every guy thinks in the same line, but the causative force behind his actions is definitely the same.
Girls, on the other hand, are more bothered about the way things work for them. How they can apply that which is around them, for their own good, which can be physical primarily and even mental sometimes. Which isn’t always as selfish as it sounds, it is just a utilitarian way of looking at the world, it does not in the least matters to them if someone gets hurt or destroyed, in fact, they lie or feign ignorance and pops up the question of trust to push the guy concerned into guilt complex. Why do guys call them ‘dumb’ I don’t know, but I know girls love to hear that to finally take control of every mess created, with the most wrongly used English word ‘sorry’. Funny, isn’t it?
Guys, therefore, live in a world where ideas and ideals are at least as real as the objects around them. In fact, they look for the realisation of what they think and what they see in the real world. An approach, not particularly suited to the better ‘disappointments’ of living a life far more prosaic than poetic.
Which obviously the woman categorises as doing dramas, because from a layman’s viewpoint it sometimes look so, while the man bleeds at heart and the woman gets to make fun, how illusory fate can be, isn’t it? One might even say that they sleep- that they need a cold hard shock to rouse them to thought. Thought which in the fullness of time leads to self-discovery.
There are few things, which do a better job than the knowledge of a woman. Love for a woman, therefore, for the foolish man, becomes the tool for his search for the inner self, to grow, to realise. While for the weaker gender, it is outright carnal and emotional power play of possession. They don’t love, they never love, they play a game and men have to accept, with all their high egos pushing it to the backseat, they play it far better ‘the game of love’, right from the time of Eve, to remove us from Paradise, with us trailing behind them, as dogs for the lure of the red apple. Funny again, isn’t it? They still follow behind to fall in love and ready to accept hurt.
There are few things, which do a better job than the knowledge of a woman. Love for a woman, therefore, for the foolish man, becomes the tool for his search for the inner self, to grow, to realise. While for the weaker gender, it is outright carnal and emotional power play of possession. They don’t love, they never love, they play a game and men have to accept, with all their high egos pushing it to the backseat, they play it far better ‘the game of love’, right from the time of Eve, to remove us from Paradise, with us trailing behind them, as dogs for the lure of the red apple. Funny again, isn’t it? They still follow behind to fall in love and ready to accept hurt.
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