BANGALORE IS seen as one of the most happening and advanced cities in India. The people who make it so special are part of the vibrant and young workforce in industries like retail, auto, PSUs, and primarily IT. These people are very efficient in their work and are valuable resources for their respective companies. But life is about more than such acheivements. These employeed also happen to be human beings and have a desire to socialise.
I also belong to the above mentioned special class of people and through my experience of Bangalore life, I will try to explore some interesting facts about girls in the city, and how innocent people should combat ensuing difficulties in their search for love. Let it be mercy love or the so-called real one.
So before moving ahead, let us go back to relationships. According to a survey, 60 percent of the guys at any given place and time are singles. The survey showed that the reasons provided were:
Bad past relationships: 10 %
Can’t compromise on quality girls: 20%
Hopelessly introverted or shy girls: 40%
Too lazy to make an effort: 10%
Others: 20 %.
The term 'mercy love' was coined by my best friend Sunil, who is also my spiritual guru. It is his charismatic personality which causes his female colleagues to flirt with him. All the girls want to be a part of his coterie.
According to him 'mercy love' is something in which a guy becomes obsessively infatuated with a girl. He will do anything from opening doors for her, praising her for everything, helping her in office work, looking into her eyes, trying to touch her and begging her every now and then to go out with him.
Suppose there is one guy who does all these things to woo a girl. Now let us also analyse the reaction of that girl. (Since most beautiful girls already have a boyfriend, we assume this girl also has one and she is fairly involved with him). The first clear sign of mercy love is that the guy who would not normally qualify to be her special friend, will soon receive a kind of sympathy or 'mercy love' from that girl because he is doing everything possible to please her. So isn't it great, love is the only thing he was looking to get from that girl. He has now got it. What else does he want? But this is not true love, it has a different set of parameters.
One of them is that apart from getting back a very synthetic smile from her, chances are he won't get any thing more. Whenever they two are together, the girl will not make any effort to make him feel special or comfortable. Obviously he will be doing that duty.
And interestingly, she will make him feel unimportant and hopelessly boring by intentionally talking to her boyfriend every now and then. So why at all are these guys pursuig such girls, even though they are not getting any respect in return for their overly-generous attitude? The answer lies in human nature and one can't completely restrain onself from this temptation.
But the good news is that one can overcome this mental fixation by practicing the points discussed later in this article. Girls are like an addiction and it varies from people to people. How much one getsinfatuated, depends upon the personality of a person.
We can say that it is safe and wiser to be in this group but unfortunately this matter is not in our hands. Next comes the group which is the most used, or misused, by girls, and in 90 percent of the cases these guys live only for the pride which they gain when they move around with a pretty girl. From outside they can feign happiness, but deep inside they always know that they are being fooled.
One thing which may go in their favor is that being in touch with such a pretty girl, will make other girls jealous and could also in some case make them feel that this guy must after all have something special about him. If we get in touch with that guy, he will say that he is just enjoying and he is having a good time with that girl. But it is not that simple. It is human nature which will make him feel incomplete without her.
He will start dreaming about her all the time sometimes as his girlfriend and sometimes as his Wife. Yes this is true. But why does this happen at all? I will try to elucidate on this with the help of some teenage memories. Let us go back some five to eight years. How many of us will agree to having had some crush on that innocent-looking high school girl?
Now I will ask another question: How many of us working as professionals today would still like to go for that high School girl? Most of us will not. It is not like that we can't win that girl but the problem is that the girl does not qualify for something we aspire. Our preferences have changed. Now most of us will definitely be interested in girls who are working with us or who are working in some positions we have not yet reached. We always get attracted towards things that are superior to us. Most of us will deny this fact. But this is the bitter truth.
Just focus on how to move from your present level to a higher and more dignified level.
Once you enter into that elite club you will not have any sort of affinity for these girls. You will then become addicted to the power and status, and will not find time to waste on these pretty girls of small stature.
On the other hand most of these girls will be dying to make relationship with you. This is how life takes a ‘U’ turn. Nothing is permanent and things always move on. But if life becomes stagnant we should make it move. There is nothing more discouraging in life than a small but adequate income so I advise to all my friends to never be complacent. Complacency is the biggest enemy of hopes and aspirations.
