Gary M Neuman, makes discovery with two year research work, in his new book. He finds out that emotional dissatisfaction is the number one reason for adultery. He also gives out some signs of adultery in his book.
WOMEN OFTEN wonder what prompts men to cheat. Well wonder no long as best selling author and marriage counsellor, M Gary Neuman, unravels the mystery in his new book, ’Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It’.
Neuman spent two years studying 100 men who had affairs and 100 men who were faithful. And he found that men cheat not because the other woman is prettier and slimmer, but because they aren’t emotionally satisfied with their wives or girlfriends.
"Only eight per cent of the cheating men said it was sexual dissatisfaction at home and 88 per cent said the mistress was not better-looking or in better shape than their wife," Metro.co.uk quoted Neuman as saying.
He added: "The number one reason behind their cheating was the emotional dissatisfaction they felt in their marriage and the emotional connection they unfortunately developed in the affair."
Neuman also made startling discovery, as he found that around 69 per cent men had initially thought they would never cheat and were surprised at their own insecurities. "They didn’t think they’d fall into an illicit relationship because they were in need of some appreciation and admiration," explained Neuman.
Neuman says that blame doesn’t lie with women, as they themselves are interested in learning what they could have done or do to prevent their partners from straying. "It tells women that emotional connection at home is by far the most important way to develop a happy marriage and reduce the risk of cheating," he said.
Neuman also gives out some signs of adultery in his book; such as your partner starts spending more time away from home, you have sex infrequently, your partner tries to avoid contact with you, he criticises you more often and starts fights with you.
So it is not your sudden weight gain or husband’s dissatisfaction in bed that prompts him to stray away from you. Emotional dissatisfaction in marriage and home is the prime reason that leads men towards adultery.