According to the Sample registration System 2010, Tamil Nadu is the state that has a total of 8.8 percent of divorce/widow rate, which is also the highest in India. Divorce lawyer of the Ganesh and Ganesh firm, advocate T. Hemalatha said that this is basically due to misunderstanding between couples who are so much into their professional life that they hardly have any time for their spouses and that leads to breaks in their marriages. When asked whether the arranged marriage system has a part to play in the whole scenario, he replied that the system has to do nothing with it. Every marriage, be it love or arranged has its pros and cons and it is the individual who makes the choices.
Literacy or the absence of it normally affects life changing decisions of marriage and divorce. In Tamil Nadu, it is the illiterate people who are more aware of their rights and when it comes to divorces, they take their grievances to the court and see to it that they get solutions. While in other states literacy plays truant as people who are highly qualified feel that marriage is nothing more than a legal obligation and can be done away with, in Tamil Nadu, it is the rural people who think along the same line.
Gopal Rammurti, manager of a prestigious corporate company is from Tamil Nadu and he points at another side of the story and the alarming rate of divorce in Tamil Nadu. According to him, job opportunities created in the cities, especially in Chennai attracts people from rural areas. Many people leave their wives in the rural areas (as they don’t want to move to the city) and the cultural difference that seeps in becomes the bone of contention that leads to divorces.
When asked whether the fact that early marriages lead to higher rate of divorces, he said that it might be a reason but there also the urban and the rural system works in different ways. “Normally people living in urban areas go for higher qualification and that leads to late marriages but in rural areas marriages happen at around 23-25. So a divorce might happen due to early marriage but that cannot be the reason for the majority of the cases,” said Mr Rammurti.
He vehemently supported the argument that arranged marriage play a part in breaking up homes. People in Tamil Nadu (as in other parts of India) are forced to marry according to their parents’ wishes and that becomes the starting point of a life of dissatisfaction and ultimately divorce. Mr Rammurti also said that women empowerment also has to play a part as girls who come from the rural areas confront a cultural shock. With more varieties and choices, marriage becomes an age old traditional pressure. Everything from personal understanding to cultural differences and education plays a part in making TN a state with the highest number of divorces.
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