The childless women are considered as selfish, sidelined and even not exempted from being scolded in our society. They are not invited on the discussions being not in the mommy trench. They are considered the possible destruction of our economic future by way of reducing the number of consumers, and debarring the future intellectuals and scientist for the nation.
Childlessness defaults to woman in all social science that applies to all whether a woman is married, single or gay. In the past, we assumed this was beyond woman’s control to have a child, now we think it is her choice and we can blame her. To fulfill the obligations there is a social pressure on woman to become a mother, with fertility treatment widely available there is no escape now.
Motherhood means actually going through the physical process of giving birth to a child and of course giving love and affection to her child. Even though the women’s childbearing age span is between 15-45 years, if you skip who is going to take care of you when you are old?
It is very tough in your late age when social isolation tends to peak among people without kids, what people report everywhere watching childless friends just remain in their small domestic world of isolation.
Their lives become lonelier and narrow over the years as pass, they feel alone in this world, helpless. This has been observed that even childless couples hesitate to talk about 'no kid thing' when they are together.
No doubt the decision to have a child or not is a private one, what happens when having it all means not having children? The womanhood with modernity trend to begin and end with one subject of not parenting is not the solution. The states of custom of being married and to have the children are yielding beautiful results for the society.
Although parenting is never easy, every parent has different obstacles and hurdles to overcome, but still they feel that motherhood is not an option it is more than a given and God’s gift.
The modern trend of living in arrangement, contract marriage or cohabitation hype has fast developed in the western countries and is spreading fast across the globe and eventually in our country too. Cohabitation is replacing marriage, living together young women with their boyfriends and believes they have not to seek religious or legal permission. This is a status of a couple who are sexual partners, not legally married to each other and sharing households.
The rise in cohabitation is not a good trend, as it weakens the institution and poses clear present danger of motherhood to woman. The researches have shown that such type of arrangement like, living in together before marriage increases the risk of break ups, domestic violence against woman, and child abuse etc.
If the birth rate records low or negligible, what will happen when having all but no children? Unmarried couples have lower levels of happiness and well-being than married couples do. In our society, living in system is considered as immoral, illegal and sin, such issues seem more critical for the future of Community and for generations to come.
Since marriage is a spiritual relationship-involving husband, wife, and God, prayer together keeps communication flowing among all the three. God loves us and is delighted when we excel and think as a woman in motherhood and acknowledge this as a blessing from him.
The take home advice is balancing work with family, Motherhood is a great honor and privilege and ambitious and smart woman will have both. Motherhood is never an option it is more of a given, one needs to have faith in God as well to provide courage and ability to be a mother. Woman, those who declare that motherhood is not for you should feel like committing treason for the community and society benefits.