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Who should choose the career of a child. Parents or children themselves?
Now a days many students say that they are forced to opt for a career of their parents choice. There is parental pressure, peer pressure to conform to career choices but do you think children should have more freedom in choosing their vocation.
RESULTS
Agree :
80.33%
Disagree :
19.67%
Agree : 80.33 %
mark douglas | Jan 19, 2014
I am ruined by my parents. I wanted to be an IITan but my parents at my +2, forced me to to a foolish college named BJB college in Bhubaneswar. They said "You will become a doctor". The answer to why was Engineering means broken bridge and destroyed house and IIT means only computer science. Dumb students choose engineering and bright students choose medical. I left my studies thinking that if there is no IIT, then every thing is like a beetle shop. When my father knew that I'm going to fail, then he wrote on the back side of a God's photo that he will never tell me about medical and signed. He then took me to one of our relatives who is a scientist, and he told that if you pass in the exam getting just 60% also, you will get a chance to get IIT coaching for a year. My father also agreed. The exam was 3 days later but I managed to pass it by 60.83%. After that my father asked me to fill up a medical entrance form! I reminded him about the Scientist's words and showd him the signature. But he said "I don't remember and that sign in not mine. If you want to get one year coaching, then that is only medical. There is no chance of engineering." I then knowingly failed in all entrances hoping that it will help me to remain one year but in my time in OrissaJEE, thre were nearly 100 colleges in Bhubaneswar area and as I could never think of becoming a doctor, I joined a foolish engineering college. I've got the degree but that has no use. What should be done..For me the paradise is lost.
Debanik Mazumder | Feb 02, 2013
i am a child that is forced to chose science but i love to play cricket
daphine | Jan 20, 2013
financial strength to support whatever career is known by parents
sam bansal | Jun 28, 2012
Nice
Pradeep Srivastava | Jun 25, 2011
Nil
mamta | Jun 24, 2011
nice
mansih | Jun 22, 2011
hii
mansih | Jun 22, 2011
hii it is best site
Annmarie verr | Jun 14, 2011
please help me i'm researching for a debate
Oghobase Benedicta Ese | Jun 04, 2011
every child,whether Nigerian or not deserves the right to choose his or her career.The major role of parents is to guide their children so that they do not go astray but that does not in any way imply that they have the sole right to hand-pick a carees for their children. Why?One may ask.A child knows the subjects in which he performs very well,averagely,and poorly.Therefore,he alone can know the career to choose.
parent should not be allowed to choose career for their children
Shreya Yadav | May 19, 2011
ok
Shreya Yadav | May 19, 2011
GOOD
Sukhmani kaur mehta | Apr 23, 2011
caree choice is a tough, shot to take and evn leaves parents in a tizzy when the calling comes.....bt i believe that just b'coz of living in a modern world...Parents need not feel threatened by the role model. THey should consider themselves as guides and ally.... Ofcource, children must have full freedom of choosing career but involvement of parents is must...afterall they have got more experience!!!!!
alhaque | Apr 22, 2011
emergency
Mircea | Mar 13, 2011
Parents should help/support the child in reaching his own goals
iram ejaz | Mar 09, 2011
parents should choose career for their child because parents are very main part of ur life!
Mayank | Mar 03, 2011
My question to all who agree that children should choose their career, are you more experienced than your parents? We choose our career when we are in 10th or 12th. So do you think that you have explored more life than your parents? they come across hurdles and are now successful so they know how people are and have the recipe to be successful. Don't you want to see them happy? They give away every joy of their life and save money for us and we can't just listen to their just a single demand. Its a shame, don't be so selfish
helen john | Feb 15, 2011
anyway parents are not going to do the child's profession,then why should they decide...
rohit | Jan 31, 2011
gfgf
niyatiajay | Jan 23, 2011
no
azam khan | Dec 25, 2010
yes i agree with this
rajat | Dec 17, 2010
here iam writing again...so finally , i have 3 months left when i will be forced to take up a job..so my sports career will be over...first my one year was ruined when i was forced to do CA..now my whole life will be ruined when i will be forced to take up a job..i just cant do it..they say that no one will stop me from playing..but il have to do a job..clever huh..because there wont be a nedd to stop asking me from playing coz i wont getthe time to train if i work..people any suggestions to get me out of this situation??should i run away or commit suicide..these are the only options i can think of..help me
adebukola | Nov 26, 2010
children should be allow to choose career themselves because they know what they are intrested in andwhat they want to become sotherefore they should not be forced to read a course bacause they may not be intrested in it
sushmitha | Nov 10, 2010
i have read all of the responses and i agree that children should lead their life because parents are just part of their lives and they are our leaders and if they only force us then we are waste. she should motivate us and not discourage us.
amisha | Nov 08, 2010
want to kno more
dhinesh | Oct 25, 2010
may be given more information
Khaleel | Oct 24, 2010
Children should choose their career of choice because what they will excel in field of their choice and will strive and love to suceed it.
Syed Asaad Hashmy | Oct 24, 2010
students must choose their own career
Ishaq | Oct 23, 2010
The moderator, panel of judges, time keeper, distinguished audience, my co- debaters, time keeper, ladies and gentlemen. My name is… I am here to propose the motion that children should make their own career choice. Let me define career as a sequence of occupations, jobs, and position engaged in or occupied throughout the lifetime of a person. Career is much more that having a job or earning a living. It is a series of roles played by a person. In a career you can feel that your abilities are being properly used, that the work is worth doing, that it is interesting. It is necessary that a person must make his or her own career choice so that one can choose what matches with their ability, their values and interests in life. Talking of parents making career choice for their children is unacceptable. It is disastrous to choose for a child what he does not have the ability to do just because it carries a big name. For example a certain man chose that his son should be a medical doctor and paid his way into the university for his son to read Medicine, but it ended in disappointment. After some years of wasted efforts and money, the boy dropped the course for inability and lack of interest to continue. If the man had allowed his son choose a career that match his ability, value and interest, such a waste of effort, time and money would have been avoided. However, after the father dumped him for a failure, on his own he changed to an area of his interest and ability by enrolling in an Accountancy programme. His story changed from failure to success at school and upon graduation he secured an Accounts job in one establishment and later moved into a big company. He is among the big names in Accountancy in our country. Is it not true that a big name in Accountancy like Akintola Williams, the Nigerian Renowned Chattered Accountant could have been unknown in Nigeria and the world if his parents had chosen that he study Medicine in order to hang the name doctor. It is wrong to call your child a failure in a course or direction he or she has no interest nor the ability to pursue but due to parents’ choice of a career for that child. Therefore, it is right for children to make their own career choice.
Sameena | Oct 05, 2010
i would agree
Elvis Iyorngurum | Sep 21, 2010
children should be left to make the choice of which career to pursue. Parents and guardians may have the wisdom and foresight but its use should be limited to motivating, supporting and guiding the child and not absolute control over choices the child should make in life. A career should be what the child personally loves and would like to spend their life or part of it pursuing.
sushil | Sep 07, 2010
no
aakansha | Aug 30, 2010
who chooss carer
sudhir kumar | Aug 27, 2010
i m strongly agree with the point that children should let to choose theeir own carrier, because it is the individual who can understand their interest not the parent. the parent only require to do is to guide their children in achieving their interest in right manner. they should play a nurturer role in watching that their children is achieving their carrier in legal manner. this would not only helpful in achieving the goal of the children but also parent feel more satisfactory as their children achieve more success in his chosen field than wats his/her parents want to impose on them.
Wasim | Jul 25, 2010
Students should have freedom to choice there careers and should have also some guidance from parents parents so that they do not make any mistake.
wan nadzirah | Jul 14, 2010
........
wan nadzirah | Jul 14, 2010
i love debate
wan nadzirah | Jul 14, 2010
i love debate
suranjan | May 03, 2010
childrens should be able to decide their oown carrier
juan zapata | Apr 27, 2010
I am confused
rajat | Mar 31, 2010
children should choose there own career..im myself a victim of this..i have always been very good in cricket and played at state level..but parents never support me..they forced me to do CA just because my relatives told my father that i should do CA..and because of that,i failed in CA and as well as in 1st year of my bcom as my accounts is very weak..and now,iam being forced to take up a job after i get done with my mba which is not of my interest at all..but i have no other option,il have to do a job but i will be never happy in life..hope someone helps me..im in great pressure in depression..parents can never know what there son is good at,..they should see that what there son is good at and what interests him and should support him with that..and he would surely rise high..no point in doing something which is not of your interest and what you are not good at,instead do what you are good at and what interests you..PARENTS PLEASE UNDERSTAND,DONT LET UR CHILD BE A VICTIM OF THIS AS IM A VICTIM OF THIS AND IAM GOING THROUGH A BIG EMOTIONAL CRISIS JUST BECAUSE OF THIS..GOD PLEASE HELP ME AND GET ME OUT OF THIS..WISH MY PARENTS READ THIS AND KNOW WHATS IN MY HEART..EVERY SECOND I FEEL AS IF SOMETHING IS EATING MY HEAD UP FROM INSIDE AND SOMEDAY EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OVER FOR ME..PARENTS,PLEASE,DONT MAKE UR SON DO WHAT U WANT HIM TO DO..WHY DONT U URSELF DO IT INSTEAD..
ramisuniverse | Mar 27, 2010
y! it must......... and parents must be 'in the form' with them
BOTH HAVE CHANCE TO THINK FOR THE FUTURE AND FOR FINAL TOUCH THE PARENTS ARE THE KEY ROLE FOR THEIR CHILDRENS FUTURE BECAUSE PARENTS HAVE MORE EXPERIENCE ABOUT FUTURE AND WHAT IS RIGHT AND WHAT IS NOT RIGHT FOR THE FUTURE OF CHILDREN ARE TO BE SEEN IN FAMILY MATTERS, ITS OK THAT CHILDREN HAVE THEIR OWN DREAMS AND THEY TELL THAT TO THEIR PARENTS BUT IS THAT DREAM BE SUCCESS IS DESIDED BY BOTH PARENTS AND CHILDRENS THOUGHTS ONLY SO BOTH ARE FREE OF THEIR THINKING FOR THEIR FUTURE LIFE.
shreya | Mar 18, 2010
Children should choose their own careers. something which interests them. something which they have a passion for. i am now studying medicine under the compulsion of my parents. i hate it . i don't like to read at all. at the same time i feel guilty cause i have to treat patients and do them justice. but i feel i am not sharp enough for this even though i cracked the medical school entrance. people here are much smarter than me and do much more in much less time. the only reason i got in was because of my hard work but there is a fine line between hard work and intelligence. and i am not able to keep up with my course work . i badly wanted to be a journalist. but parents refused
dharma | Mar 18, 2010
children should must be guided by parents but never be pressurised to chose a particular career. Iit will help children to chose the better career under the precious guidance of their parents according to their skills and interests and they will be happy as well as more successful as that time they will enjoy their work and will do it with full dedication.
Santonu Bhattacharje | Mar 17, 2010
hi
naveen | Mar 16, 2010
yes, the children themselves should be given the fair chance to vote into the career of their choice.
amjad | Mar 14, 2010
no
arvind | Mar 11, 2010
kunal | Mar 11, 2010
I AGREE that students should have more freedom to exercise their choice.If their job nature doesn't match their interests they wont be able to give their hundred percent.Time is changing fast.Conventional jobs like medical,enginnering and civil services are taking back seats while unconventional jobs like advertising,designing or journalism becoming more lucrative.Parents should ofcourse guide their wards but never should try to impose their choices upon them.At the end of the day its their children who have to perform in their respective job sectors. Therefore,i favour that children or students should have final say while choosing any career.
rizwan | Mar 08, 2010
The kids be allowed to do so ,may it be a dificult preposition.
Imtiyaz-Pulwama kashmir | Mar 06, 2010
I think it should be decided by parents but keeping in view the fields of intrest of their children.It should not be forced upon children without consulting them.I am myself practical example of wrong selection of carrer thrusted upon me by my parents despite of knowing my field of interest somewhat diffeent.
shravu addagatla | Mar 06, 2010
hi!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
SUMI NARAH | Mar 05, 2010
A child should know better his field of interest it may be sports ,culture ,education etc so the choice should be his or her to do better in life .because if a parents force him to do this or that ,they may be he will choose a wrong path in life.
sumi | Mar 05, 2010
ACTUALLY THE THING IS THAT CHILD KNOWS WHICH IS THE AREA OF HIS INTEREST . SO THE CHOICE SHOULD BE GIVEN TO HIM DEPENDING UPON HIS INTEREST TO RISE HIGH IN LIFE.
Vineet | Mar 03, 2010
Its ur life n its better u lead it ur way.Yes parents advice r very essential bt dat does not mean , as parents one can pressurize a child by putting their ambitions and hopes on them.When it comes to career,dat phase or age ,a guy is pretty much mature enough to make a sensible choice.
canadian forces | Mar 01, 2010
if my parents tried to force me to do something that I didn't like to do I would go insane.
Chandra Kumar Patel | Feb 28, 2010
A child should be allowed to opt for what he wants as a career. Because, when somebody does what he wants, he gives more than 100% effort to it. As for as parents are concerned, they should not worry because is their child will fetch prestige to them. Every vocation is good if done properly.
Neetu Banga | Feb 27, 2010
In my view, it is not justified that parents should force their child to choose career of their choice. First, they should see the progress and interest of child in particular field. Secondly, they should discuss the pro and cons of field not only with child, also with their teachers, tutors and ecucationist. Finally they should support their child to choose the right option for his/her choice.
navane | Feb 26, 2010
parents should observe their children thoughts, interests and guide them to achieve their goals.
akhilesh singh | Feb 24, 2010
i think parents giving help to choose a right carreer but child is the chooser what to choose
bajrangmohapatra | Feb 24, 2010
children themselves
madhu | Feb 24, 2010
i think children must be given a choice to choose a career of their own interest but parents must guide them to the rightful path.
vinay shah | Feb 23, 2010
I think it should be a joint decision. but, child should not be forced and he should be logically explained about the pros and cons and then the child should decide.
svm | Feb 23, 2010
ell educated and far sighted parents, should have a say in choosing the career of thier children. However, my personal opinion is there is always a third person known as "CONSULTANT" who is professional in giving proper counselling advice, on such vital issues; therefore, children, parents and consultants all should have a say. consultants will give a practical view and picture of the situation and scenario with facts and figures. Parents can become emotional in giving views. Children on their own can either make correct or rash decisions depending upon their environment, situation and circumstance. the bottom line is, once the decision is made, parents must make every effort to keep motivating and encouraging the children to do their best in their chosen field!!!!
anil | Feb 23, 2010
child have to decide parents should guide and help give advice
shikha | Feb 22, 2010
child should themself chose career for them
Manjula | Feb 22, 2010
it shuld be collabarative decision, parents should guide not force the kid.
suman | Feb 22, 2010
sdf
Nikhil Sharda | Feb 21, 2010
Children should decide their own path.
Vijay | Feb 21, 2010
First of all they should have an ambition so that there should have no problem
Manjit Singh | Feb 20, 2010
I like Abhishek Bacchan after Dostana
aswin | Feb 20, 2010
no
Aravind | Feb 20, 2010
yes..i totally agree with tis...students shld chose their carrier so that they pursue well in ther future
yusra | Feb 20, 2010
yusra | Feb 20, 2010
gulzar | Feb 20, 2010
gulzar
rajesh | Feb 19, 2010
what i feel childerns have to take therer own decsions ...it is therer own lookout ....therer have to decide what is best suits and the area which therer are interest in ..parents should not force them to particular studies parents cant get back on childerns
Ritz | Feb 19, 2010
I feel that children should choose their career themselves becuse they know themselves well & know what interests them. Due to parental influence a child may feel pressurised to take up a particular profession. It is different case if child wants parental guidance but parents should not force.
yuna | Feb 19, 2010
I strongly feel that children should take up their own career opinion what they feel like taking up becoz one forceful decision might ruin their whole life. I m not saying that they should not consult their parents.or peer groups parents are our ideal and we should take their suggestionsbut just because they want us to study a particular thing so we are studying this is wrong its the matter of our entire life and we should not play with it.instead of regretting later, we should take up right decision at right time, after all its we who have to take it forward and if midroad we fall then there will be no one to support its we who have to support ourselves, after all we should enjoy what we are doing, and study is also one such case. I can understand this as I m also a student
Ajay | Feb 19, 2010
It is not a simple concern, interest of child and parent's experience should be considere together. At the time of chossing carrier children are not as mature as they could suppose the result of their decision. Finally, waht i would like to say that dont impose ones decision upon another. It is a matter to be decided in short, be implimented in some time and have impact on whole life including successors.
soumya varma | Feb 19, 2010
Choosing a career is an important milestone in our lives. It has to be a decision taken by us and not through any compulsion. Ofcourse, parents can be the guides but they shouldnt force it on children.
Anwesha Dey | Feb 18, 2010
Its the decision for life time which should be decided only by oneself. The individual only knows what he is good at and such decisions should not have any interference from parents .
Rinku Bora | Feb 18, 2010
Ofcourse its the individual who has the outmost right to choose his or her own career, because they themselves know which career to chose.
garima mohan | Feb 18, 2010
Children should be given the freedom to choose their career, as a parent one can guide them, motivate them and help them in shaping their careers but the choice should be given and as a parent do check out on the strengths of the child while deciding their careers because child may not like to do what the parents wants him to choose.
SATYAN SHARMA | Feb 18, 2010
CITY THANA Q.NO.4 PUNJAB KAPURTHALA
yuna | Feb 18, 2010
I strongly feel that children should take up their own career opyion what they feel like taking up becoz one forceful decision might ruin their whole life. I m not saying that they should not consult their parents.or peer groups parents are our ideal and we should take their suggestionsbut just because they want us to study a particular thing so we are studying this is wrong its the matter of our entire life and we should not play with it.instead of regretting later, we should take up right decision at right time, after all its we who have to take it forward and if midroad we fall then there will be no one to support its we who have to support ourselves, after all we should enjoy what we are doing, and study is also one such case. I can understand this as I m also a student
yuna | Feb 18, 2010
I strongly feel that children should take up their own career opyion what they feel like taking up becoz one forceful decision might ruin their whole life. I m not saying that they should not consult their parents.or peer groups parents are our ideal and we should take their suggestionsbut just because they want us to study a particular thing so we are studying this is wrong its the matter of our entire life and we should not play with it.instead of regretting later, we should take up right decision at right time, after all its we who have to take it forward and if midroad we fall then there will be no one to support its we who have to support ourselves, after all we should enjoy what we are doing, and study is also one such case. I can understand this as I m also a student
SueD | Feb 17, 2010
Children should most definitely pick their own careers. They will be working for a living long after their parents are gone and they should be doing what interests them and what fits with their chosen lifestyle. Those uber-parents would be the first to complain if hairdressers, plumbers and sanitary engineers disappeared from this planet but, hey, we don't want OUR kids to do those things. Fortunately every generation produces children who have different interests - there are lawyers, doctors, plumbers, hair dressers, sanitary engineers, road paving people, retail managers, etc etc. Thank God for that - we need them all. Watch the documentary "Hyper Parents: Coddled Kids" - it will blow your mind what's happening to the Boomers' kids. If you love your kids then back off and let them pursue the lives they want, the lifestyles that are important to them, and the ability to form their own morals, value systems and commitments.
sachin singh | Feb 16, 2010
abhinav singh | Feb 16, 2010
child by parent counselling and guidence not force and compulsion
wasim | Feb 16, 2010
children should chose their career by themselves
raja | Feb 15, 2010
2012
soumyaranjan singh | Feb 14, 2010
my darling krisna i love you for ever like god krisna
ashu | Feb 14, 2010
children should choose their carrer by own
john | Feb 14, 2010
i'd like to join these debates as i think that these debates helps us to learn about something
kalpesh | Feb 13, 2010
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Disagree : 19.67 %
kasthuri | Nov 05, 2013
nice
Pradeep Srivastava | Jun 25, 2011
Exposure of a child is still limited and he may not be aware of alternates
yash | May 31, 2011
latring khayega.......
shashi | May 31, 2011
bahut mar marenge.......
iram | Mar 09, 2011
parents should choose the career for their child
adebukola | Nov 26, 2010
some children need counselling from their parent in order to choose a career so not all children are leave to choose their career
hunaiba | Aug 10, 2010
parent is the most important part of our life. So I hv a strong feeling tat parents should decide our career
Hari Lakhera | Mar 20, 2010
In formative years of the child parents have one role to play and that is to guide the child and talk about various choices and may be their preferences. Let the child make a decision. He has teachers, peers, and media to influence his or her decision.
Vivek S | Mar 10, 2010
Parents should help/guide the child in making better decision. Not make the decision for child. Vivek
Aryan | Mar 10, 2010
very bad decision.
katyhy | Mar 07, 2010
no comment
somjit | Mar 06, 2010
Normally child will always prefer to go ahead wih the easiest way that may not help him to get well estublished in future because, in childhood he does not have any idea about his own well being. Rather parents have lot of experience and based on that they can guide about well being of his child. But, it is to be kept in mind once child gets sufficient exposures and being in a position to identify good or bad things, opinion of child should be considered with a positive mind.
ram shah | Mar 03, 2010
i am not agree bcz.. some pressure is too important for chirdren for his/her bright future.. oterwise he/she diverted his.er path..
ram shah | Mar 03, 2010
i am not agree bcz.. some pressure is too important for chirdren for his/her bright future.. oterwise he/she diverted his.er path..
anish | Mar 03, 2010
if u will allow each and every child to choose there own career then most of them will ruin there life................so as per my thinking child should choose their career but involvment of parents is nesessary........
satheesh | Mar 02, 2010
children should decide their own career and parents should support them
soni | Feb 26, 2010
i think children should decide and parents should support them coz if dey r forced by there parents to have a particular stream they cant perform well.
soni | Feb 26, 2010
i think children should decide and parents should support them coz if dey r forced by there parents to have a particular stream they cant perform well.
priyanshu | Feb 22, 2010
i think children shounk decide . because if his career choice is depend on his intrest then they will enjoy it and surely get uccess very quickly success very quickly.
simple m | Feb 22, 2010
Both should have a definite part in the decision. A [aremt should not choose the career. A guiding parent nurtures the child by open and active listening. Thus sets the standard to communication. A teacher can teach but a student can be good or bad. Answers and conditions are different for all. Fear is the enemy of wisdom and turns knowledgeable people into fools. Faith is the only force that sets us free to succeed. So if the parent should set the decision for the child career path I think give the child tools to succeed in what ever they do, it is not easy to define a yes or no conclusion.
Marco | Feb 22, 2010
I love how its like do you think children should or there parents, yes or no? dumb question is dumb. And parents should chose because children are pron to pooping there pants when flying a jet around to the winter games and watching skis go down a hill when the skier is an actually bear, and the skis that everyone is holding is a bear. I started running, feet are bears, and i trip and fall. Then i realize I,am a bear and Kristina Groves is a bear too. Both get into a bear fight my strength vs. her flexibility.
Pratik | Feb 15, 2010
According to me childrens must have full freedom of choosing carrier but involvement of parents is very important.....afterall they have got more experience.
Nithya Subramanian | Feb 15, 2010
Children should first decide on their career by themselves. They should think if they can survive in their chosen career for longer time. They should have stronger points to choose their favourite career. After, deciding, children should consult their parents for a approval, as they are helping them financially until they get settled and earn their first ever salary.
chandru | Feb 15, 2010
impossible

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