Parents should never ever force their decisions on their children. May the matter in question be about religion or career. I have known kids on whom the subject science has been forced upon since they were in 1st and 2nd grade. It's terrible. Chances are, the kids would grow to take in the subject, but somewhere in between when the kid's stuck with no way out, the realisation dawns on him. Realisation that he could be so much happier with some other career, that he could have been somewhere he could have given his all. Realisation that he is not a loser or a bad son to do badly, that it's just he's a fish trying to climb a tree. And believe me when I say, this realisation hits him hard. Hard enough to leave him breathless. But there is no way out. Cause it's too late and he is stuck. It's enough to ruin a child's life.

It is childerns life not Parent life

Parents are very important. They look after every small need and happiness of ours. Whateva they think is for the betterment of their child that they have nurtured with so much care from so long. There is a minimal age gap of 20 years between every parent and chils and most of the cases much more than that. Now the one thing that is to be understood here is nowadays there can be seen a difference in ideology, the environment, the competetion for jobs, the options of career, the world, technology every small thing. The time when our parents had their graduation was entirely different. There was no hard competetion. Even 80% was considered excellent. But now the child who gets 97 or 98% gets a second or third rank. There were no pressure from their parents on getting ranks in competetive xams of IIT, IIM, GATE, AIPMT, etc..The career options were limited. But now the world is different. Here, i totally agree that parents have complete rights to guide their children but only GUIDE.Rest what your child chooses should be on him/ her. Now every parent tells their child how important is 10th n dey show how life wud b after they pass 10th, den d dialogues repeat for intermediate. Then it has become a kind of unavoidable MANDATORY custom in india to do b.tech though it has anything to do with the career ahead or not. Then the pressure is about job saying that so n so relative's son has so n so job. If the child is talented enuf to get a good job , then starts the urge for getting a govt job with big words like JOB STABILITY, SECURITY etc. The urge n demands never ends. If the child has some different career plans. Then he has to daily undergo an ordeal. Distant relatives of more than 40+ age who have no clue about what technical aspect or profession the child is talking about, are asked to interfere so that they compell u to do what they compelled their child to do. If every parents think in same way there would be either doctors or engineers left in the world. But thanks to god, there are some like minded parents too, a one in thousand who encourage and be the support if the child has choosen a different path. SALUTE TO SUCH PARENTS. Parents should think about this: ThE CAREER OF THE CHILD BEGINS WHEN THEIRS' IS AT THE VERGE OF RETIREMENT. The career which they forced their child into will be tormenting him/ her every day. The max they can see in remaining 10 to 20 years of their life is the hard work and dislike on the face of your child. But that doesnot end here. Your child has to pretend a faike smile everyday covering that dislike and dissatisfaction for the rest 50 to 60 years of his life. Instead if he were in the career he choose, he wud have a beaming face of smile. Parent and child relationship is the most important one of all the other relationships in the world as thats the first relation in our life. Parents accept a child as the part of them. They dont mind the color, features or gender (except a few maniacs) of the child. Hence parents should be supportive. If the child fumbles on the path he/ her has choosen.. THE FIRST SUPPORT OF MOTIVATION HE/ SHE WOULD LUK FOR IS OF THE PARENTS. n if at that time parents begin taunting and discouraging saying that had the child listened to them, he wud have neva failed. SERIOUSLY? Failures are a part of life. A perfect motivation and supporting hand beside, will definitely convert the failure into a stepping stone leading them to success. But if the child gets discouragement when they turn to you at their failure and all they get is taunts and mean remarks, it wud pitch them into darkness. ALL THAT I WANT TO SAY IS CHILDREN SHOULD TAKE ADVICES AND GUIDANCE FROM THE PARENTS AND BE TOTALLY TRANSPARENT TO THEM. IF THE PARENTS ARE SUPPORTING THE CHILD FOR A DIFFERENT CAREER, HE/SHE SHUD WORK HARD SO THAT THE PARENTS FEEL PROUD FOR SUPPORTING THEM. AT THE SAME TIME PARENTS SHOULD REALIZE THAT THE WORLD HAS TAKEN A GREAT LEAP, NOW THE CAREERS, CONDITIONS, WORK STRUCTURE EVERYTHING HAS CHANGED WITH TECHNOLOGY. SO IF THE CHILD HAS ANY DIIFERENT PATH FOR THE LIFE. SIT CALMLY AND HAVE A WORD. LISTEN TO THE POINT CLEARLY BEFOR PUTTING IT OFF WITH "HE/ SHE IS JUST A KID, THEY DONT KNOW ANYTHING." TRUST ME DEY KNOW MUCH MORE THAN YOU DO ABOUT EVERYTHING, BE IT CAREER OR FUTURE PROSPECTS, COZ THE WORLD AND TECHNOLOGY HAVE CHANGED. SUPPORT THEM GIVE THEM THAT HELPING HAND AND TRUST THEM IF YOU TRUST YOUR UPBRINGING. Children dont stop loving their parents even if you dont support, but the trust they had on you would shatter to pieces. BELIEVE IT OR NOT THE CHILD's LOVE AND RESPECT WUD TURN INTO DEVOTION AND THEY WUD NEVA FORGET THAT HIS/HER PARENTS WERE A SUPPORT WHEN HE CHOOSE A DIFFICULT PATH. DO THINK. DONT KILL D DREAMS.

I agree student choose their own carrier becuese he know about his potential and interest what he can do bt if the parents pressurised him to choose a particular subject then he take it as a burden and he can't give 100? in this subject bt if the students choose their carrier himself then it necessary he gave his best.

The child should be the one choosing his own çareer. It is better to expose him in making decisions at a young age so that it will not be difficult for him in the future. He will be more expose to experience and will not be afraid to take risk. Afraid of failure? Why? Everybody experiences it. Even Thomas Edison failed many times for an incandescent bulb. So i say, the child will choose his career.

I want to go in INDIAN NAVY but my parents are forcing me to IIT and be an engineer..

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yes i do agree tht parents play an important role in a child life but they cannot pressurise thier child for career ... if they think thy r wrong .. a child can understand and knows his capability and his ability 100% others cannot read a childs mind..if they do then it may. b max 99.9%but not 100%so let them decide their career by their own....

One should be let to decide one's own carrier. The parents should support the child's decision. The child should be let to decide and feel free to talk to the parents .. the parents should be accessible. After all that is your child and not your slave . That do have brains of their own.

I agree that parents should take part in currier as they take a gud decision..they know that wat is capable of there children!!!so i think that parent have a important role in the children life!!!!!

i totally agree tht studnts should choose only tht career in which they feel passion they knw 100% tht yes i can do it, but mostly parents here fails to understnd there child they only wnted to c there child successful but the child will only achieve his goals if he is interestd in tht career pressurizing thm wll only trouble thm as they r playng wth there child's career atleast i m independent to choose my career its just bcz of my father's thought. but if u thnk tht ur child has the capability and can do it thn leave it to thm as they are not kid now. they just need all ur guidance just tht.

i totally agree tht studnts should choose only tht career in which they feel passion they knw 100% tht yes i can do it, but mostly parents here fails to understnd there child they only wnted to c there child successful but the child will only achieve his goals if he is interestd in tht career pressurizing thm wll only trouble thm as they r playng wth there child's career atleast i m independent to choose my career its just bcz of my father's thought. but if u thnk tht ur child has the capability and can do it thn leave it to thm as they are not kid now. they just need all ur guidance just tht.

Parents need to be understanding instead of ordering, they need to have patience instead of overconfidence, they should not play a decisive role but an active and supportive role. They need to hatch the egg instead of smashing it...

Always listen ur heart... And choose your favourite job... Once uh can expert u can make ur life sucess for sure...

Yes I agree to the choosing the carrier of youth totally freedom.......

Yes parents should play a big role in decisions involving their childs future. A parent has life experience, wisdom and knowledge that a child does not have so why wouldnt a parent be an important contributor to their childs future? Yes you want your child to have focus and clarity on future goals but its a parents job to guide.

I think Parents should consult from their Children for choosing their profession.

I am ruined by my parents. I wanted to be an IITan but my parents at my +2, forced me to to a foolish college named BJB college in Bhubaneswar. They said "You will become a doctor". The answer to why was Engineering means broken bridge and destroyed house and IIT means only computer science. Dumb students choose engineering and bright students choose medical. I left my studies thinking that if there is no IIT, then every thing is like a beetle shop. When my father knew that I'm going to fail, then he wrote on the back side of a God's photo that he will never tell me about medical and signed. He then took me to one of our relatives who is a scientist, and he told that if you pass in the exam getting just 60% also, you will get a chance to get IIT coaching for a year. My father also agreed. The exam was 3 days later but I managed to pass it by 60.83%. After that my father asked me to fill up a medical entrance form! I reminded him about the Scientist's words and showd him the signature. But he said "I don't remember and that sign in not mine. If you want to get one year coaching, then that is only medical. There is no chance of engineering." I then knowingly failed in all entrances hoping that it will help me to remain one year but in my time in OrissaJEE, thre were nearly 100 colleges in Bhubaneswar area and as I could never think of becoming a doctor, I joined a foolish engineering college. I've got the degree but that has no use. What should be done..For me the paradise is lost.

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every child,whether Nigerian or not deserves the right to choose his or her career.The major role of parents is to guide their children so that they do not go astray but that does not in any way imply that they have the sole right to hand-pick a carees for their children. Why?One may ask.A child knows the subjects in which he performs very well,averagely,and poorly.Therefore,he alone can know the career to choose.

parent should not be allowed to choose career for their children

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caree choice is a tough, shot to take and evn leaves parents in a tizzy when the calling comes.....bt i believe that just b'coz of living in a modern world...Parents need not feel threatened by the role model. THey should consider themselves as guides and ally.... Ofcource, children must have full freedom of choosing career but involvement of parents is must...afterall they have got more experience!!!!!

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Parents should help/support the child in reaching his own goals

parents should choose career for their child because parents are very main part of ur life!

My question to all who agree that children should choose their career, are you more experienced than your parents? We choose our career when we are in 10th or 12th. So do you think that you have explored more life than your parents? they come across hurdles and are now successful so they know how people are and have the recipe to be successful. Don't you want to see them happy? They give away every joy of their life and save money for us and we can't just listen to their just a single demand. Its a shame, don't be so selfish

anyway parents are not going to do the child's profession,then why should they decide...

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here iam writing again...so finally , i have 3 months left when i will be forced to take up a job..so my sports career will be over...first my one year was ruined when i was forced to do CA..now my whole life will be ruined when i will be forced to take up a job..i just cant do it..they say that no one will stop me from playing..but il have to do a job..clever huh..because there wont be a nedd to stop asking me from playing coz i wont getthe time to train if i work..people any suggestions to get me out of this situation??should i run away or commit suicide..these are the only options i can think of..help me

children should be allow to choose career themselves because they know what they are intrested in andwhat they want to become sotherefore they should not be forced to read a course bacause they may not be intrested in it

i have read all of the responses and i agree that children should lead their life because parents are just part of their lives and they are our leaders and if they only force us then we are waste. she should motivate us and not discourage us.

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Children should choose their career of choice because what they will excel in field of their choice and will strive and love to suceed it.

students must choose their own career

The moderator, panel of judges, time keeper, distinguished audience, my co- debaters, time keeper, ladies and gentlemen. My name is… I am here to propose the motion that children should make their own career choice. Let me define career as a sequence of occupations, jobs, and position engaged in or occupied throughout the lifetime of a person. Career is much more that having a job or earning a living. It is a series of roles played by a person. In a career you can feel that your abilities are being properly used, that the work is worth doing, that it is interesting. It is necessary that a person must make his or her own career choice so that one can choose what matches with their ability, their values and interests in life. Talking of parents making career choice for their children is unacceptable. It is disastrous to choose for a child what he does not have the ability to do just because it carries a big name. For example a certain man chose that his son should be a medical doctor and paid his way into the university for his son to read Medicine, but it ended in disappointment. After some years of wasted efforts and money, the boy dropped the course for inability and lack of interest to continue. If the man had allowed his son choose a career that match his ability, value and interest, such a waste of effort, time and money would have been avoided. However, after the father dumped him for a failure, on his own he changed to an area of his interest and ability by enrolling in an Accountancy programme. His story changed from failure to success at school and upon graduation he secured an Accounts job in one establishment and later moved into a big company. He is among the big names in Accountancy in our country. Is it not true that a big name in Accountancy like Akintola Williams, the Nigerian Renowned Chattered Accountant could have been unknown in Nigeria and the world if his parents had chosen that he study Medicine in order to hang the name doctor. It is wrong to call your child a failure in a course or direction he or she has no interest nor the ability to pursue but due to parents’ choice of a career for that child. Therefore, it is right for children to make their own career choice.

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children should be left to make the choice of which career to pursue. Parents and guardians may have the wisdom and foresight but its use should be limited to motivating, supporting and guiding the child and not absolute control over choices the child should make in life. A career should be what the child personally loves and would like to spend their life or part of it pursuing.

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i m strongly agree with the point that children should let to choose theeir own carrier, because it is the individual who can understand their interest not the parent. the parent only require to do is to guide their children in achieving their interest in right manner. they should play a nurturer role in watching that their children is achieving their carrier in legal manner. this would not only helpful in achieving the goal of the children but also parent feel more satisfactory as their children achieve more success in his chosen field than wats his/her parents want to impose on them.

Students should have freedom to choice there careers and should have also some guidance from parents parents so that they do not make any mistake.

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children should choose there own career..im myself a victim of this..i have always been very good in cricket and played at state level..but parents never support me..they forced me to do CA just because my relatives told my father that i should do CA..and because of that,i failed in CA and as well as in 1st year of my bcom as my accounts is very weak..and now,iam being forced to take up a job after i get done with my mba which is not of my interest at all..but i have no other option,il have to do a job but i will be never happy in life..hope someone helps me..im in great pressure in depression..parents can never know what there son is good at,..they should see that what there son is good at and what interests him and should support him with that..and he would surely rise high..no point in doing something which is not of your interest and what you are not good at,instead do what you are good at and what interests you..PARENTS PLEASE UNDERSTAND,DONT LET UR CHILD BE A VICTIM OF THIS AS IM A VICTIM OF THIS AND IAM GOING THROUGH A BIG EMOTIONAL CRISIS JUST BECAUSE OF THIS..GOD PLEASE HELP ME AND GET ME OUT OF THIS..WISH MY PARENTS READ THIS AND KNOW WHATS IN MY HEART..EVERY SECOND I FEEL AS IF SOMETHING IS EATING MY HEAD UP FROM INSIDE AND SOMEDAY EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OVER FOR ME..PARENTS,PLEASE,DONT MAKE UR SON DO WHAT U WANT HIM TO DO..WHY DONT U URSELF DO IT INSTEAD..

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BOTH HAVE CHANCE TO THINK FOR THE FUTURE AND FOR FINAL TOUCH THE PARENTS ARE THE KEY ROLE FOR THEIR CHILDRENS FUTURE BECAUSE PARENTS HAVE MORE EXPERIENCE ABOUT FUTURE AND WHAT IS RIGHT AND WHAT IS NOT RIGHT FOR THE FUTURE OF CHILDREN ARE TO BE SEEN IN FAMILY MATTERS, ITS OK THAT CHILDREN HAVE THEIR OWN DREAMS AND THEY TELL THAT TO THEIR PARENTS BUT IS THAT DREAM BE SUCCESS IS DESIDED BY BOTH PARENTS AND CHILDRENS THOUGHTS ONLY SO BOTH ARE FREE OF THEIR THINKING FOR THEIR FUTURE LIFE.

Children should choose their own careers. something which interests them. something which they have a passion for. i am now studying medicine under the compulsion of my parents. i hate it . i don't like to read at all. at the same time i feel guilty cause i have to treat patients and do them justice. but i feel i am not sharp enough for this even though i cracked the medical school entrance. people here are much smarter than me and do much more in much less time. the only reason i got in was because of my hard work but there is a fine line between hard work and intelligence. and i am not able to keep up with my course work . i badly wanted to be a journalist. but parents refused

children should must be guided by parents but never be pressurised to chose a particular career. Iit will help children to chose the better career under the precious guidance of their parents according to their skills and interests and they will be happy as well as more successful as that time they will enjoy their work and will do it with full dedication.

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yes, the children themselves should be given the fair chance to vote into the career of their choice.

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I AGREE that students should have more freedom to exercise their choice.If their job nature doesn't match their interests they wont be able to give their hundred percent.Time is changing fast.Conventional jobs like medical,enginnering and civil services are taking back seats while unconventional jobs like advertising,designing or journalism becoming more lucrative.Parents should ofcourse guide their wards but never should try to impose their choices upon them.At the end of the day its their children who have to perform in their respective job sectors. Therefore,i favour that children or students should have final say while choosing any career.

The kids be allowed to do so ,may it be a dificult preposition.

I think it should be decided by parents but keeping in view the fields of intrest of their children.It should not be forced upon children without consulting them.I am myself practical example of wrong selection of carrer thrusted upon me by my parents despite of knowing my field of interest somewhat diffeent.

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A child should know better his field of interest it may be sports ,culture ,education etc so the choice should be his or her to do better in life .because if a parents force him to do this or that ,they may be he will choose a wrong path in life.

ACTUALLY THE THING IS THAT CHILD KNOWS WHICH IS THE AREA OF HIS INTEREST . SO THE CHOICE SHOULD BE GIVEN TO HIM DEPENDING UPON HIS INTEREST TO RISE HIGH IN LIFE.

Its ur life n its better u lead it ur way.Yes parents advice r very essential bt dat does not mean , as parents one can pressurize a child by putting their ambitions and hopes on them.When it comes to career,dat phase or age ,a guy is pretty much mature enough to make a sensible choice.

if my parents tried to force me to do something that I didn't like to do I would go insane.

A child should be allowed to opt for what he wants as a career. Because, when somebody does what he wants, he gives more than 100% effort to it. As for as parents are concerned, they should not worry because is their child will fetch prestige to them. Every vocation is good if done properly.

In my view, it is not justified that parents should force their child to choose career of their choice. First, they should see the progress and interest of child in particular field. Secondly, they should discuss the pro and cons of field not only with child, also with their teachers, tutors and ecucationist. Finally they should support their child to choose the right option for his/her choice.

parents should observe their children thoughts, interests and guide them to achieve their goals.

i think parents giving help to choose a right carreer but child is the chooser what to choose

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i think children must be given a choice to choose a career of their own interest but parents must guide them to the rightful path.

I think it should be a joint decision. but, child should not be forced and he should be logically explained about the pros and cons and then the child should decide.

ell educated and far sighted parents, should have a say in choosing the career of thier children. However, my personal opinion is there is always a third person known as "CONSULTANT" who is professional in giving proper counselling advice, on such vital issues; therefore, children, parents and consultants all should have a say. consultants will give a practical view and picture of the situation and scenario with facts and figures. Parents can become emotional in giving views. Children on their own can either make correct or rash decisions depending upon their environment, situation and circumstance. the bottom line is, once the decision is made, parents must make every effort to keep motivating and encouraging the children to do their best in their chosen field!!!!

child have to decide parents should guide and help give advice

child should themself chose career for them

it shuld be collabarative decision, parents should guide not force the kid.

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Children should decide their own path.

First of all they should have an ambition so that there should have no problem

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yes..i totally agree with tis...students shld chose their carrier so that they pursue well in ther future

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what i feel childerns have to take therer own decsions ...it is therer own lookout ....therer have to decide what is best suits and the area which therer are interest in ..parents should not force them to particular studies parents cant get back on childerns

I feel that children should choose their career themselves becuse they know themselves well & know what interests them. Due to parental influence a child may feel pressurised to take up a particular profession. It is different case if child wants parental guidance but parents should not force.

I strongly feel that children should take up their own career opinion what they feel like taking up becoz one forceful decision might ruin their whole life. I m not saying that they should not consult their parents.or peer groups parents are our ideal and we should take their suggestions…but just because they want us to study a particular thing so we are studying this is wrong it’s the matter of our entire life and we should not play with it.instead of regretting later, we should take up right decision at right time, after all it’s we who have to take it forward and if midroad we fall then there will be no one to support its we who have to support ourselves, after all we should enjoy what we are doing, and study is also one such case. I can understand this as I m also a student

It is not a simple concern, interest of child and parent's experience should be considere together. At the time of chossing carrier children are not as mature as they could suppose the result of their decision. Finally, waht i would like to say that dont impose ones decision upon another. It is a matter to be decided in short, be implimented in some time and have impact on whole life including successors.

Choosing a career is an important milestone in our lives. It has to be a decision taken by us and not through any compulsion. Ofcourse, parents can be the guides but they shouldnt force it on children.

Its the decision for life time which should be decided only by oneself. The individual only knows what he is good at and such decisions should not have any interference from parents .

Ofcourse its the individual who has the outmost right to choose his or her own career, because they themselves know which career to chose.

Children should be given the freedom to choose their career, as a parent one can guide them, motivate them and help them in shaping their careers but the choice should be given and as a parent do check out on the strengths of the child while deciding their careers because child may not like to do what the parents wants him to choose.

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I strongly feel that children should take up their own career opyion what they feel like taking up becoz one forceful decision might ruin their whole life. I m not saying that they should not consult their parents.or peer groups parents are our ideal and we should take their suggestions…but just because they want us to study a particular thing so we are studying this is wrong it’s the matter of our entire life and we should not play with it.instead of regretting later, we should take up right decision at right time, after all it’s we who have to take it forward and if midroad we fall then there will be no one to support its we who have to support ourselves, after all we should enjoy what we are doing, and study is also one such case. I can understand this as I m also a student

I strongly feel that children should take up their own career opyion what they feel like taking up becoz one forceful decision might ruin their whole life. I m not saying that they should not consult their parents.or peer groups parents are our ideal and we should take their suggestions…but just because they want us to study a particular thing so we are studying this is wrong it’s the matter of our entire life and we should not play with it.instead of regretting later, we should take up right decision at right time, after all it’s we who have to take it forward and if midroad we fall then there will be no one to support its we who have to support ourselves, after all we should enjoy what we are doing, and study is also one such case. I can understand this as I m also a student

Children should most definitely pick their own careers. They will be working for a living long after their parents are gone and they should be doing what interests them and what fits with their chosen lifestyle. Those uber-parents would be the first to complain if hairdressers, plumbers and sanitary engineers disappeared from this planet but, hey, we don't want OUR kids to do those things. Fortunately every generation produces children who have different interests - there are lawyers, doctors, plumbers, hair dressers, sanitary engineers, road paving people, retail managers, etc etc. Thank God for that - we need them all. Watch the documentary "Hyper Parents: Coddled Kids" - it will blow your mind what's happening to the Boomers' kids. If you love your kids then back off and let them pursue the lives they want, the lifestyles that are important to them, and the ability to form their own morals, value systems and commitments.

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