"You are a soldier, you are commissioned to kill, you are to follow orders without questioning them and you are not to disrespect your seniors by disobeying their orders". This is the rigor with which Indian army officials and soldiers are trained. Also mostly, most armies and armed forces across the globe are also trained with this rigor and discipline.
When a marriage is on rocks and there are kids involved, contrary to popular belief, it's not the kids but the fathers who are the worst victims. The kids are at least allowed to live with one parent - the mother, but the father is totally alienated from his kid.